Post # 1
Fiance and I are not going with a super traditional wedding – we’re not religious, so we’re not doing a church ceremony, and our families aren’t pushing for anything too typical/traditional either. We’d prefer a shorter ceremony, but we want to still have it feel special for us and not rushed. We’re open to anything from writing our own vows to unity ceremonies and everything in between. Has anyone done a shorter ceremony but still kept that cute personal touch? I’d love to hear about your short but special ceremony ideas!
Post # 2
We had a totally non religous ceremony in a restaurant. Our officiant had a few questions we answered about ourselves and how we met etc. Then she wrote that into the vows. Kind of an “our story” thing. It was really cute and casual. LOVED it!
Post # 3
Our wedding hasn’t come yet but I plan for our ceremony to be short. We are doing our own vows cause I feel it just makes it more personal and our officiant is a close friend that has known my Fiance since middle school so I told him he could share like some stories of us if he wanted. We’re also going to do a short, simple rose ceremony to thank our moms but I don’t want it to be too long.
Post # 4
My ceremony is probably gonna be long ish (30-40 min maybe, just guesstimating at this point though) but that’s just cause I like long readings. In terms of writing your own ceremony I found officianteric.com to be totally invaluable for having lots of examples. A Practical Wedding and Offbeat Bride were great for getting readings and more unique ideas.
Post # 5
We clocked in at a total of 7 minutes between people starting to walk down the aisle to us leaving, it was -awesome-. I looked for some shorter vows (non-religious) online and tweaked it so that applied to us, although it wasn’t overly pesonal. I got great responses to the ceremony itself – everyone seemed to love it (I think they also loved not having to sit for so long outside). Neither of us like ceremonies that much so it was perfect.
I would suggest looking at different things/vows online. We didn’t write our own vows because we didn’t feel the need to and we didn’t want the added pressure of writing something profound (especially in front of people). PLUS it gave us way more time for the reception. We even did all of our pictures beforehand so that we could enjoy the cocktail hour with our guests.
Edit: Also, my cousin (and bridesmaid) officiated for us, which was really fun too!
Post # 6
This a a great thread. We are in the UK and choices seem to be very churchy ceremony with hymns or civil service only which feels a little clinical to us. We are hoping to find someone to marry us in a licensed venue who’ll tread the line between personal and religious. I’m off to check out some of the things PPs have suggests so that’s OP for starting this thread.
Post # 7
Ours was nice and short as well. We had his father officiate (unofficially – got legally married 2 days prior) and say a nice prayer, then said our own vows. That was something I never thought I’d do, but we managed okay.
Post # 8
These are all really cute ideas! I’m going to start looking at vows and stuff to see what I can steal for inspiration, then customize as our own
Post # 9
Our ceremony will be short. We’ve written it ourselves but heavily borrowing from ceremonies and vows that we found on A Practical Wedding and Offbeat Bride – and from some “sample vows” we got from our officiant.
Post # 10
We had our officiant say the absolute bare legally required minimum, then we added our own vows, which were absolutely the best part! So glad we did it. I was nervous about writing them but we took the format “I promise to always…” And it wound up being really easy to think of things to finish that sentence! The whole thing was less than five minutes and two minutes after that we were in a bar, having a beer and signing the papers! Best wedding ever!