(Closed) Short Ceremony filler help??

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

But what do you already have in your program right now? You can have a reading of something religious or a non-religious love poem. You can also have musical interludes [live singing or instruments] Your officiant can also give s 10-15 minute mini “sermon” if that is your thing

Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Before we say our vows and exchange rings we are having our pastor ask the honored guests to stand and join hands. He will then say words to the effect of…”will you honor and respect the marriage, be there in there times of need, lend a hand and advice without judgment”…etc.

He will then turn to us and say something to this effect: “{BRIDE} {GROOM}, your guests have joined hands and formed a community of support. Do not be afraid to reach out to them in your time of need…..” etc.

Will we then take our vows and exchange rings. There is a lot more to what he says and was written a lot more eloquent. I just don’t have it in front of me right now, but you get the jist. (I stole it from another BEE)



Post # 6
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Lilmiss just the idea of that brought tears to my eyes. I would love to use that idea, I hope you don’t mind!

I also have to say I’ve never heard anyone complain about a ceremony being too short… ours is 15 minutes long but I understand your concern with all the traveling.

I’m also wondering what you have so far? What about a ring-warming? You can put the rings into a bag and pass them around asking each guest to say a prayer or a blessing. I think your best bet is guest involvment of some sort. Good luck!

Post # 7
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Readings work very well with a special guest who is not in the bridal party but who you would like to make part of your ceremony. A step-parent, close cousin/aunt/uncle or older niece/nephew. There are tons of wonderful passages that can be read, anything from scripture to a meaningful poem or even song lyrics.

I LOVE the chapel!

Post # 8
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My sand bottle has a cork in the top so no problems there! What about a rose ceremony or a hand fasting?  We are having the officiant say a few words, our vows, then traditional vows, then rings, then sand, then prounouncement (we are husband and wife and kiss).  I think you should do things and say things that YOU want – whether it’s 2 minutes or 15…who cares?  As long as you are happy!

Post # 9
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We had two readings and asked my husband’s favorite aunt (with whom we are really close) and one of my cousins to do them. Also because logistically the boat ride sounds like it is going to take awhile, I don’t think you really need any filler…shorter is no bad!

Post # 10
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsP-to-be: Of course not! I have gotten some of my best ideas from other BEES and tweaked them to my liking. That is why I absolutely love this community…sharing and support of one another.

Post # 11
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

FOUND IT! Mrs. Cherry Pie had blogged about this in 2008 and I loved it. I tweaked it by having the guests stand and joining hands.

“As family and friends, you form a community of support that surrounds {BRIDE} and {GROOM}. Each of you, by your presence here today is being called upon to uphold them in loving each other.

Always stand beside them, never between them. Offer them your love and your support, not your judgment. Encourage them when encouragement is neededand listen to them when they ask for advice.

In these ways, you can honor this marriage into which they have come to be joined today.

Do you offer your love and support to strengthen their marriage and bless this family created by their union? “

Please answer by saying : WE DO

[Guests: WE DO]

Thank you, you may be seated.

[Audience sits]

Post # 12
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was concerned about the same thing. We did add a short reading, which allowed me to invite a close friend to participate; she was honored. We also added something at the end of the ceremony that worked out really well… instead of having the officiant alone give the “Final wishes” (e.g., “May you always find happiness together, blah, blah, blah”) before the pronouncement, we had five or six different people read a separate line… along the lines of (and I’m totally making these up as I go, the real lines were more eloquent):

May you always remember the reasons you chose each other…

May you be each other’s support, but not each other’s crutch…

May you always find kind words to say to each other…


We gave each person the full script and highlighted their particular line. The officiant kicked it off with the first line and then they just had to follow along and wait for their lines. It worked beautifully and it was a nice little surprise for the other guests.

If you’re interested, PM me and I’ll send you the script. I also have a bunch of readings I collected that might be helpful. Good luck!

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