(Closed) Short Ceremony…Is it okay to ask most guests to stand?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
178 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t think you should have your family in chairs and make everyone stand.  I think you should have chairs just for the elderly/people who can’t stand or have chairs for everyone. Maybe you should look a benches rather than individual chairs?


Post # 4
7218 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How long is a short ceremony?

I think if you will do chairs at all you shouldn’t have your family sit you should only have elderly people and people with babies sit.

ETA: I think you should just get chairs for everyone. Looking at me you would think I didn’t need to sit (only 23 years old) but I have some back issues that cause back pain after standing for only about five minutes even in comfortable shoes. I would not be enjoying your wedding if I had to stand through it. I would just be thinking about much my back hurts. However, I’m also someone who has no qualms about just sitting on the ground when there are no other options so I guess I would probably just end up doing that.

Post # 5
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I really think you can’t ask people to stand. What if you are late on the day? What if you have elderly, sick, or pregnant guests? What if it is ridiculously hot and people can’t bear to stand? Buy seating, if it isn’t too expensive, just to cover yourselves… just in case.

Post # 6
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Are you not having seat at the reception, as well? 

Post # 7
850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When guests arrived we served drinks + snacks for about 30 minutes, most guests stood, though there were benches for those who needed to sit. Our ceremony was 10 minutes and all guests stood for it. Cocktail hour continued immediately after, again with benches available. The majority of guests stood for an hour with no complaints! We had no elderly or disabled guests and the one pregnant guest was in amazing shape. We had a seated dinner and seats available during dancing.




Post # 8
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We might be doing this, as lugging 15 chairs to the beach for a 5 minute ceremony somehow costs $1k.

If you keep it short and sweet, and have everyone stand, you  might be ok.

Post # 9
1032 posts
Bumble bee

I’m doing this for my wedding. We’re having about 40-50 guests, but 1, the ceremony space is really small; and 2, I’m not paying for double the amount of chairs, so they’d have to carry the chair to the reception tent.

So I just decided that people will have to deal with standing for 15-20 mins. No biggie. 🙂 

(I’m providing chairs for the elderly people though)

Post # 10
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I really think you need seating, unless your ceremony is 10 minutes or less.  Even with a short ceremony, people will arrive early.  And I wouldn’t have seats for family and nobody else.  Either full seating, or no seating except for elderly/disabled.

Post # 11
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

just heard from our photographer that he attended a wedding that had no chairs but it was only about 3 mins long

Post # 12
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FutureMrsSlagle: I went to a wedding where they did this, and honestly, I wasn’t a fan.  They ended up with people who couldn’t see, and it just felt kind of messy to me.  That being said, the couple was perfectly happy with this decision.  So to each his/her own I say! 🙂

Post # 13
2712 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Unless your ceremony will really, truly be less than 10 minutes I think you need to have chairs for everyone.  People always show up 10, 15, 30 minutes beforehand and the ceremony usually starts a few minutes late and takes longer than anticipated. So for a planned 20 minute ceremony guests can be standing for almost an hour.

Also if you decide to not have chairs for everyone, only have enough for elderly or disabled people. Don’t have extra for family members such as parents or siblings. It would be rude to treat some gubetter tater than others.

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