Post # 1
My fiance and I have been together for 2.5 years and just got engaged (although we’ve known for most of that time that we wanted to marry). We’re planning a very small, intimate wedding (30 people max) no frills, etc. I’ve never been into the big princess wedding thing to begin with and we decided we’d rather spend the money on a honeymoon. We very nearly decided to elope but we wanted our family to be a part of it too.
We’ve been getting mixed reactions from people. Most of them are just happy for us but there are some who are like, “Wow, that’s fast!” I don’t get it really. I know we’ll only be “engaged” 2 months before tying the knot but it’s not like we’re being impulsive. It’s been the plan (although admittedly we’ve been somewhat private about our plans as a couple) and we’re having the kind of wedding we both want. The timing couldn’t be any better. Plus we just want to be married already 🙂
Thoughts? Is there such a thing as having too short an engagement when you’re planning on eloping or having a small ceremony?
Post # 3
Haha! Don’t worry about it — I can one up you! Hopefully it’ll make you feel better….
I’ve been getting “THE STINK EYE” from people who learn that I’m getting to a man that I’ve been with…. for eight months! Yeah, I totally feel your pain.
My motto is, “Every relationship moves to the beat of a different drum.” You don’t need to validate your relationship or your marriage to anyone except yourself and your to-be husband. I don’t think you can have “too short” of an engagement (Or dating for that matter) if you’re both on the same page and understand each other’s wants and needs.
Best wishes to you!
Post # 4
We had a 2.5 month engagement (engaged after one year of dating including several months living together).
We too had a very small, laid back and intimate wedding (with 16 guests) in a little destination weekend wedding on the West coast. We were ready to get married the day we got engaged, but too decided to have a few people there. I don’t know, the engagement length seemed perfect if not too long for both of us. Really the wedding itself was planned within a couple weeks (mostly by my husband) and then it was just a matter of waiting!
We did not get any negative comments though in our case, indeed most expressed they wished they had done a small wedding or commended us for it, ha ha. We felt very ready personally and as a couple and so even if people did give us a side-eye, we would not have cared much. We have always marched to the beat of our own drum (as Hyperventilate described), and still do.
Post # 5
@Mrs_S_to_be: Don’t worry about it. They probably don’t mean the ‘wow it’s fast!’ in a mean way. I guess it is fast for your typical engagement, but I see no reason to wait! I always think of a year plus as a long time to be engaged… even though it seems to be standard!
Post # 6
You get those opinions from like everyone, no matter the engagement length, someone will think it is too short. Just brush it off! =)
Hubs and I got it a lot when we were engaged for about six months. Everyone said we were rushing things. LOL. Do what you feel is right!