Short engagement reactions?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

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becks90 :  We got engaged one day and then next month got married.  TALK about short.  But it worked for us.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I’m having a 6 month engagement. Some people were a bit surprised but everyone has said positive things about it.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We got engaged in July, married in December. Nobody said a thing about it, but we’re old and the general reaction to our engagement was “it’s about damn time!” even thought we’d only been dating a year and a half lol.

As is always my reaction, screw other people’s opinions and do what works for you, Bee! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I think it’s awesome that you (and all the others on this thread with short engagements) are so organized and on top of it that you can get your wedding planned in a short amount of time! If it works for you then I don’t know why anyone would have a bad thing to say about it. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We got engaged on our 1 year anniversary end of October and are getting married May first on Maui. I have mostly everything booked and also a dress. It’s going to b a tradional hawaiian beach wedding with just the two of us. We are both over 36 and we definitely are not in a hurry because of kids. And everyone who knows me know the latter fact ๐Ÿ˜‰ I just liked the date. My people where more surprised with a fast engagment but nobody wondered about a wedding 6 month after. Maybe that’s a cultural thing. I have only been to two weddings so far. Nobody was getting engaged or married to way after they turned thirtysomething. 

You go girl. No need to care too much about what others think. If that’s your way then keep on you path. 

Congratulations btw ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

You guys do what is best for you.

Our engagement was 9 months. Not particularly short to me, but it was less than the standard 1-2 years that seems common.

The only time I’ve ever raised an eyebrow at a short engagement is when the couple had been dating for a REALLY short time. For example, my hubby’s oldest brother proposed to his lady after only 4 months of dating. Their wedding was in the same year as the proposal, but I can’t remember how long it was exactly. My hubby’s youngest brother had an engagement period of only 11 days (had been dating for little less than 6 months).

However, I don’t think there is a right or wrong length of engagement. I think if you’re ready, you’re ready.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I got engaged Aug 15th and we are getting married Dec 4th.  We are eloping so we chose a monday so that we could book the photograher and officiant without any issues.  Some people thought it was fast and others werent surprised at all.  Honestly all that matters is what you want. Its your day.

Post # 23
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Helper bee

We eloped the day after he proposed. His extended family thought/still thinks I am pregnant…

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a 9 month engagement and that seemed too long, I got sick of planning about halfway through :p (and I am an obsessive planner, maybe that just made it too much). I would have gone shorter but I got engaged in late October and didn’t trust the weather where I live until August (lots of afternoon thunderstorms before that, and risk of snow through May) I have friends who did 5-6 month engagements and pulled together beautiful weddings. I think 6 months is perfect if you can get your venue and stuff which it sounds like you have covered. Enjoy!

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Our engagement was about 7 months, and I didn’t feel that was a short time at all. It gave us time to plan everything and get invitations out in a timely manner. While everyone is different, I wouldn’t have been comfortable telling people we were enaged much more than a year in advance, anyway. A very long engagement seemed silly to me.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

We got engaged the first Saturday in May and are getting married in the beginning of December, so a 7 month engagement.  It doesn’t seem too short.  There are a few things I did right away after getting engaged, like obviously book the venue and get a dress, but other than that, I was able to get my pick of photographer and other vendors.  We didn’t get any kind of negative reaction at all.

We also got engaged after dating only 7 months though.  However, we were friends for years before we became romantically involved so it didn’t surprise anyone that we got engaged so quickly.

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