Post # 1
I am 5’4" and my fiancee is only 2 1/2" taller than me, and I want to wear 4" heels. That puts me at 5’8", and I want him at least 2" taller than me. The Tux shoes only give him 1" more! Is there anything I can do? Please help!
Post # 3
Would he wear creepers? They are not for the faint of heart, but if he is game they might be an option. I think my man is going to wear a white pair for our wedding. But we are non traditional, so it fits with our theme. 🙂
Post # 4
Well, he can wear lifts in his shoes, which might put him an inch taller or so. But aside from that, looks like you’ll have to compromise either on the 4" heels or the 2" taller than you requirement. Which one is more important to you? (hint: wear shorter heels– you want to be able to dance all night without your feet hurting!)
Post # 5
Yeah, I’d go for shorter heels too. You’ll still be plenty tall in 2" or 2.5" heels! You gotta work with what’s possible. If he’s only 2.5" taller than you and wearing shoes that only give an extra 1" in height, then you’re going to have to wear shoes less than 3.5" if you want him to look taller than you.
This is going to sound ridiculous but I have heard of people doing this (pretty sure Tom Cruise and Prince Charles both did this on their wedding days). In posed photos of you and the groom together, if the photo doesn’t show your feet, then you could have him stand on a 2 or 3 inch platform of some sort and he’ll look taller than you in the pics. But he may have to surrender his dignity to pull off the photo op, depends on how he feels about it!!
Post # 6
If your feet don’t show, YOU don’t have to wear shoes either – or can wear a lower or flat shoe. My shoes won’t show at all under my dress. (I am also not good at heels, and will be wearing them for like 6 hours, so went with a 2 3/4 inch heel.) You make it sound like the height difference bothers you, not him, so it doesn’t seem fair to pick a really tall shoe and then make him stand on a box. Would he care if he was the same height as you in the photos?
Post # 7
I am in the exact same boat…..and i love heels almost more than chocolate! But, I am going the shorter heel route….I figure I can give them up…but ONLY because we are having a chocolate wedding cake;)
And plus, there are some adorable kitten heeled bridal shoes out there!
Post # 8
Thanks for your comments. He said he’d rather be taller and forbid me to wear 4′ heels. so maybe 3 1/2" hee hee. Either way it’s not as bad as my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. Maid/Matron of Honor is 5’2" and the Bridesmaid or Best Man is 6’2" 😀
Post # 9
here’s the deal. I’m 5’11". Mr Corn is 6′ on the nose. i wore 3 inch heels, he just wore his regular good shoes. And you know what…it didn’t matter. I wasn’t towering over him. no one noticed a thing.
the important thing to remember, if you go the heel route and are therefore taller than your husband at the wedding, is to make. double. sure. you. don’t. slouch!! I have seen three too many brides do this and it is NOT flattering.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY
I say just wear flats or kitten heels. No one really sees your feet anyway for the most part, and you’ll be more comfortable.
Post # 11
I’m 6′ and my fi is 6’1.. He doesn’t care if I wear heels but I want cute pics.. maybe take off your shoes for the pics?
Post # 12
I"m 5’2" (barely) and Mr Codogg is only about 5’5" (barely) I"m planning on wearing kitten heels. I would like him to be taller…and…well…we’re just a short couple. Plus small heels will most likely be more comfortable!
Post # 13
I think you’re worrying too much about it – I’m an inch taller than my husband even in flats – I wore low heels, I was a little bit taller than him, we still got cute pictures, nobody said anything. If you are absolutely set on him being 2" taller than you, you’re going to have to get lower shoes, or have a cowboy wedding so he can wear heeled boots.
Post # 14
I would love for my Fiance to be 2 inches taller than me :(. He’s about 2 inches shorter. The good thing is, I don’t really like to wear heels all that often, and most of his shoes have a bigger bottom than my every day flats, so it makes us even. for my wedding I am wearing ballet flats I got from someone in the classifieds. Anyways back to you, I understand wanting to wear the heels because there is no other way to make your butt and legs look so great. If you have a non-floor length dress I’d say stick to the heels but if you have a floor length dress, maybe cut back on the heel and put lifts in your FI’s shoes.