(Closed) Short Term Engagement

posted 13 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How long was/is your engagement period?

    6 months or less

    7 months to 12 months

    12-16 months

    17 months or longer

  • Post # 3
    716 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    I think ours will be short, but it also won’t be a big/fancy wedding. If we have a wedding it’ll be longer 1 yr plus. Otherwise, probably 5-6 months.

    Post # 4
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Our "engagement" was unofficial and about a year long. We planned the wedding for when we thought our son would be walking because we wanted him to be our ringbearer. From a planning prospective we could’ve had it done in about 6 months so I know it can be done with the right resources, research and organization. Good luck!

    Post # 5
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Ours will be almost exactly 12 months.  I thought about 7 months, but wanted more time. 

    Post # 6
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee

    We will end up with an 11 month engagement.  The only hard part about it was that because we wanted to get married in summer or fall, the venue options were more limited.  We ended up with a fabulous location, but were initially discouraged by the fact that many venues booked up almost a year in advance.  Also I am at the age where many friends are getting married (age 29) so we had to be careful about not booking our wedding too close to others that were already on the calendar. 

    It is definitely doable if you are flexible though!

    Post # 7
    87 posts
    Worker bee

    We were unofficially engaged from about 12 months… but waited to tell our families in person. As a result, we’re working with a 5 1/2 month engagement.

    Tight – but definitely doable, as long as you’re flexible about venue and vendors, etc.

    Post # 8
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You can definitely do it in a short period, you just have to be willing to sacrifice a little, because the exact spot you wanted may not be available, and other similar things.  Good luck 🙂

    Post # 9
    3952 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ours will be 4-5 months!

    Post # 10
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Ours is about 4 months. It was going to be a year, but we moved the wedding up, so I was suddenly planning for a LOT sooner! It’s been pretty simple. We had some stress because Chinese New Year almost doubled the ordering time on dresses. But they got them ordered in plenty of time and they should have about a month for alterations. Venues and vendors do book up early for wedding season, so if you do a short engagement, I recommend an off-season wedding.

    But it’s definitely doable, just less time to procrastinate!

    Post # 11
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2021

    We had a 4.5 month engagement.  As long as you are not super particular in getting that exact shade of "blush and bashful" it can be done!  

    Maybe just get some ideas in the hopper so if and when it happens you guys are ready to roll out the plans! 

    Post # 12
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I did 7 months. It was totally doable.

    Post # 13
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    Officially, our engagement was 7 months. june-december. but… we ran into some road blocks and didn’t really get into the main planning until october! I had done research prior too, but actual planning took place within 3 1/2 months. It’s doable. I did a lot of DIY projects too — invitations, table numbers, programs and lots of decorating stuff.

    I think it’s better this way, because you don’t procrastinate (even though I did sometimes!)… it’s doable and doesn’t give you much time to doubt yourself or go back and forth. It’s hard – i won’t lie — but you can do it!

    Post # 14
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2008

    Ours was almost 7 months to the day. We wanted to have a spring wedding, right around our anniversary, and we just weren’t willing to wait a year and a half for that. So 7 months it was!

    Post # 15
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    My Fiance always insisted that we have a short engagement (he thought a year was far too long). I’ve dreamed of having my wedding at our venue for as long as I can remember. Our venue typically books up 14 months in advance, but we were extra lucky to book it 9 months in advance.

    I’ve always dreamed of wedding planning and thought I needed a long time to do it, but the advice from all my married friends said they needed only about 6 months. I’m grateful for our short engagement now becuase I’ve been able to focus on the tasks and am so ready to be married!

    Post # 16
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I am doing it in 8 months, and despite the fact that we decided to get married in june on the busiest wedding weekend of the season (!), we can totally do it.  We had to sacrifice a little bit on venue…everything we really loved was taken already, we got creative and everything should bea breeze! 

    I’m a huge fan of shorter engagements, because life about the marriage you’re anticpating, not about the day that gets you there.  Weddings can be planned in a very short period of time in reality, with help, creativity and not enough sleep 🙂

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