(Closed) Short vs. very long engagement ???

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had a 9month long engagement and I’m so glad we did. I read so many girls who kept  changing their mind having all kinds of regrets and questions about “Did I make the right choice?” I had very little time for that. It was stressful but if you work fast now you’ll be ok. I had all of the biggies booked 3 weeks after we were engaged. Venue, DJ, florist, and photographer. You can do it!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i got engaged at the end of may and our wedding is oct 22, 2011. I had the whole wedding planned (with only my DIY projects left to do) by the end of aug. If we had the money, I would have totally gone for a short engagement. 15 months is way too long for me. However, we needed to be able to get all of our debt paid off and our parents needed to save before the big day which is why we have a long engagement. If you can do short, go short!

Post # 19
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Our engagement was about 16 months and IMO it was too long. If you can pull it off sooner, I’d do it. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I vote for October 22 (and not just because I’m partial to the date Wink).

10 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding, although I would possibly get all your big vendors (cake, flowers, photographer, caterer, venue….did I miss any?) booked right away instead of the “traditional” timeline (which you can find on theknot, marthastewartweddings, etc).

as for the guest issue, a fellow bride once said: “People you don’t expect to show up, will; people you expect to show up, won’t; and on the day, it won’t matter either way”.

If you want an Oct wedding, go for it.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would do it sooner.  I don’t have a long engagement and I’m like you, used to planning things.  It would bother me to have to wait that long for the event.  You can do it!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

10 months is plently of time to plan.  If I were you, I would go for the shorter engagement.

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have a longer engagement. We got engaged in October 2009 and we are getting married in July 2011. The upside of a longer engagement is that you have first choice on vendors, are a little more relaxed in planning (in my case), and it also gives you time to save the money, and I’ve been happy with the length of the engagement so far. However, there are times where I wish I had a shorter engagement so Fiance and I could be married already!

Also, a friend of mine just got married a few weeks ago in mid December, and got engaged in February 2010, so planning a wedding in 10 months is totally doable 🙂

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I got engaged the day after valentines day in 2009 and had a September 2009 wedding planned that fell through (due to financial issues) But now coming into 2011 I’m so glad I had this time to rethink my wedding and get to my my FH’s tastes and get his input too.My wedding is now (pray with me lol) scheduled for the summer and I could not be happier. My reception site is better the photographer is better and the whole wedding process will just be that much greater. But hey, its only my opinion

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance and I got engaged May 26, 2011 and are getting married November 12, 2011! Our original plans were to get married October of 2011 but my sister went and planned her wedding that month (hahah isn’t she a sweetie?) anyway, so we were thinking of pushing it to May 19, 2011 but then realized there was really no reason to wait! So the planning has begun!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I suggest the short engagement. 

We got engaged in September 2010, and getting married July 2011. I think that’s PLENTY of time! Unless you live somewhere that the vendors get picked up really quickly, I say the sooner the better 🙂

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We got engaged March 2009 and got married November 2010. If I had it to do over again, we’d have a short engagement, perhaps that summer. For me, I think I would have been happier if we’d done things a bit more simply, and that includes a shorter engagement. I have a close friend that had a short engagement, and their wedding was absolutely beautiful because of it’s simplicity (which was necessary because they didn’t have a lot of time). I vote short.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We just got engaged on Dec 14th and We have kinda decided on May 19, 2012. But I really don’t want to wait that long! If you can do it sooner I say go for it!

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

short short short! 🙂

people are gonna have weddings in your same month no matter what. I bet by the time May 2012 gets a little closer, there will be others in your circle of friends or family who announce their engagements and set the date for May.

(plus, 10 months isn’t really all that short. . .i really think you will find that you have enough time to get everything done.)

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had and 11 month engagement and thought it was perfect. I was still in school for part of it, so I mainly planned the wedding in about 7 months.

I really enjoyed the fact that I was fully into wedding planning and the engagment.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Some people have 4 year engagements! I don’t think 2012 is that far away! But it just depends on your situation. So do whatevers best for you!

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