Post # 1
Did anybody else have regrets after choosing a short wedding dress? My husband and I had a very small wedding with just 11 guests followed by a nice italian dinner. I feel like my dress was right for the type of wedding we had, but I also feel like I missed out on the wedding gown experience. I mean, when else in our adult lives will we get to wear a gown, you know?
I’ve been feeling down lately about it. I loved our wedding and loved everything about the day except for the dress. Any advice how to move forward? I can’t get it out of my head and feel like I made a huge mistake.
Post # 3
I am not wearing a short dress, but just looking at your picture, your dress is gorgeous and very figure flattering, I wouldn’t be sad, that you didn’t get to wear the big poofy dress. Amd really if you regret it why can’t you do a vow renewal in 10 years with the big poofy dress?
Post # 4
you looked stunning in your dress
if you had chosen a poofy big dress you would have felt out of place, with only 11 guests at the wedding. Don’t feel down. What’s done is done, move on and celebrate your marriage with your hubby. Afterall what matters is that you’re married to the man of your dreams.
And you can always do a renewal after 5 years or so.
Post # 5
Your dress is gorgeous! It really suits you and by the sounds of it, suited your wedding.
I agree with @alysee: and @maddy41: .
My Mum and Dad got married in the 80s and my nan made my mum’s dress which she hated. For their 25th wedding anniversary they renewed their vows.
Mum got to chose the dress she wanted.
Post # 6
You look lovely! First of all, congratualtions on your recent nuptials!
Judging by the plant life around you (was the ceremony in Orlando?), I’m guessing the type of dress you’re thinking about might have been beyond uncomfortable on the day. I understand you feel a bit bummed about it now, but it’s entirely possible that if you’d worn the type of dress you’re thinking of you’d have regets of a different kind.
As someone mentioned above, don’t look on that as your one opportunity missed. There could be a renewal, a black-tie event (they exist!), other chances in your future! Think of the things you got that other brides don’t. Everybody saw your shoes, for example. I’ve never seen a bride’s shoes. Ever. And I know many of them spend a lot of expense and time finding that item. And you got to accessorise with that killer clutch and have it totally work.
I’ve a hunch the regrets will fade. And if they don’t, don’t count yourself out yet. There will be gowns in your future.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
Your dress is beautiful! It looks perfect on you and sounds like it completely fit with the tone of your wedding. I know for me getting to try on classic long/poofy dresses solidified for me that a short dress was the way I wanted to go. Maybe go to a David’s or something and try some dresses on pretending that your wedding hasn’t happened yet but is going to be exactly what you did? Could be fun and might get it out of your system. Otherwise I’m with PPs, there’s always a vow renewal in your future!
Post # 8
I never had dress regret before my wedding but I did a few times afterward. When I see myself in pictures (guest photos bc we still dont have the pro shots) I think I shouldve worn a bra or something bc my chest was just out there. Also, it was a ballgown and I had really wanted a lace a-line dress.
Honestly I get over it because I know there’s nothing I can do to change it.
Post # 9
@Chelsey-Bell: You look great! Put this to rest and find an occasion to wear a gown. Maybe next holiday season, often in big cities you can buy a ticket to a holiday ball or black tie charity event. Take a trip, stay in a hotel, and wear a gown as an anniversary date or something.
I have a date like that with my FH this weekend and I am SO EXCITED to wear my dress. You can find a reason! So stop focusing on that part of your regret. Your dress was beautiful and appropriate for your unique wedding.
Post # 10
You can do a redo later on and wear any dress that you want! There are no rules saying you can never wear a bridal gown ever again.
Post # 11
@Chelsey-Bell: I feel your regrets. We had a kinda rushed ceremony (not rushed marriage though, we were engaged for 2 years) – only 2 weeks to prepare, and only my husband’s family was with us (my family lives in another country). I wore a dress similar to yours, a wedding gown would be unappropriate. We have a religous (church) ceremony this year and I will finally wear my ‘real’ wedding dress. I agree with the posts above, you can absolutely wear a gown for vow renewal, and it does not need to be that far! You can arrange something for 1 or 2-years anniversary!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@Chelsey-Bell: I’m wearing a short dress and doing basically the same thing you guys did. Super small wedding party, nice italian dinner. I tried on the big dresses and felt stupid in them. I also thought they didn’t really fit the “theme” of our low-key wedding. FWIW, I think you made the right choice!
Post # 13
@Chelsey-Bell: You looked gorgeous- don’t have any regrets! You can always do a long gown for a future vow renewal:)
Post # 15
Beautiful picture, beautiful dress, beautiful lady! No need for regrets.
Post # 16
@Chelsey-Bell: you look really beautiful!
I will be wearing a long blush tulle dress with no train, and even though I love it I already regret all the dresses I can’t have – the lace, the long train, the beading, strapless, etc etc. The bottom line is that you have to choose one dress to get married in, which means you miss out on a lot of other beautiful styles. You made the best choice for your body, your event, and your budget at the time, so try to let it go. Where else can you wear a full-length gown? Do you ever go to galas or other events? Or perhaps you could buy a gown and have a fun photo shoot with your husband?