- Miss Mac
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
I was a cantor for my parish in Chicago for 10 years (until a year ago), and my former music director will be playing the music for my wedding. While picking ceremony music, she mentioned that I could sing the psalm and the communion hymn. I would secretly love to do this, as I love to sing and participate in the mass in this way, and have not sung with my director since I stopped cantoring. But I have gotten some pretty blunt opinions from my mother, Maid/Matron of Honor, and other friends that I have even mentioned this too.
During the mass itself, what would happen is that after the first reading, I would leave the altar, step over to the cantor stand, sing the psalm and verses, then step back to the altar for the second reading. For communion, I would take communion with my new husband, then step over to the cantor stand and sing the communion hymn as others come forward for communion. I have cantored many many times… although never in a dress and veil.
I know that many will say that I should do what I feel is right (and I probably will), but I want to know your opinon. Would it be tacky or lacking in etiquette to do so? It isn’t quite the same as singing to my fiance/husband, since it will be songs that are part of the mass. But it is my way of participating in the mass and where I feel most connected with God.
What would your reaction be? For Catholics especially, your reaction? What would you think of the bride? Would it be a welcome surprise?