Post # 1
So we just picked out the bridesmaids dresses, which are short coral colored dresses. Then the shoe topic came up. Did you/will you require your maids to have the same shoes? I personally wasnt going to ask them to get the same ones, just the same color scheme, but a lot of people have told me I should or else it would look bad. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I could not care less about the shoes my girls are wearing. They are all wearing the same color, with their own style and heel heights. Honestly, no one is looking at the Bridesmaid or Best Man shoes that closely!
Post # 4
I let the girls pick their own but they had to pick a nude color. At first I wanted them all to be the same since they wore short dresses, but it got so complicated and I got to the point where I just didn’t care haha too much other stuff to worry about! It ended up working out just fine!
Post # 5
No, I really think this falls into the detail-that-doesn’t-matter pile. Shoes are pretty personal to people.
My bridesmaids dresses are navy chiffon; I’m letting them pick any neutral/champagne colored shoe they want to wear. I was thinking about having them wear navy shoes, but then I think they might have trouble finding shoes to match their dress color.
Post # 6
My thoughts exactly! I didnt want to determine how much they spend and how high of a heel so I wanted them to pick their own as long as they were a tan/champagne color. I dont think Ive ever noticed the shoes BM’s have worn at weddings Ive attended so I didnt think it was a big deal, but apparently some people I know think it is. lol.
Post # 7
@stephko99: I would ask the girls to pick out the same colour shoe but they can be in whatever style/heel height they’re most comfortable with. There are alot of expenses associated with a wedding, and you want your girls to be comfortable since they’re going to be on their feet all day, so I don’t think it’s exactly fair to force a shoe onto the girls.
I like for things to match but I can’t force my girls to wear a certain shoe so I will be going with long dresses so it looks cohesive for pictures.
Post # 8
@stephko99: Haha yea, I honestly don’t remember who wore what and I don’t even have pictures of their shoes. I would say just let them know what color and let them take it from there! What color are you going to have them go with? I love coral dresses, so pretty!
Post # 9
I let my girls wear black dress shoes- they appreciated that since everyone already has a pair of black shoes so they didn’t have to go out and spend even more money than they already had on the dresses & alterations.
I think if a bride requires a specific shoe, then the bride should pay for them (same thing if they require professionally done hair & make-up).
Post # 10
I’m not having a very formal wedding – It’s outdoors, rustic vibe, but my bridesmaids are wearing short coral dresses (different styles, but same fabric) from Alfred Angelo and I told them just to choose nude heels/pumps. I’d like to see them first but I’m not going to stress about it. I think they all have the right idea for what I’m talking about. lol. I don’t think people will be paying much attention to their shoes. I think same color is good enough – unless you are trying to match a very specific shade.
Post # 11
I’m letting my BMs wear whatever they want. They’re adults, they can dress themselves and it’s one less thing I have to worry about.
Post # 12
All my girls wore silver shoes. One of them was a mama and pregnant, so heels were out for her, where another lives in heels. A third is self-conscious about how tall she is, and the last wanted to wear heels. I just wanted them to be comfortable for the night, and I only have a vague sense for what they wore. I never notice it going through pictures (although I just looked at a pic and my little flower girl must have taken off her shoes and is barefoot in all our formal pics–too cute!)
Post # 13
Mine aren’t as they are wearing shoes they already have. But the styles are similar.
Post # 14
I am letting all my BMs pick their own nude or silver shoe. The last wedding I was in the bride picked ugly shoes for us to wear. They looked like grandma shoes and they HURT. We ALL HATED them so I vowed I wouldnt do the same. If you are paying then it is a different story but they all already have dresses they wont wear again.
Post # 15
My BMs are all wearing different dresses in the same color and about the same length. As far as shoes go, I picked the color and they can pick whatever shoes they want. Honestly if people at my wedding are commenting that the shoes are the problem then it’s really sad on their part!
Post # 16
I absolutely did not care about my BMs shoes. I suggested they find nude colored shoes, especially if they already had them. My Maid/Matron of Honor ended up falling in love with a pair of very light gold glitter flats, and then the other girls loved them and bought them. Easy peasy.