(Closed) Should bridal party be invited to engagement party?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2759 posts
Sugar bee

I’d go ahead and invite them – after all, as you said, if they can’t come they probably won’t and that way you don’t risk any hurt feelings.

Post # 4
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It makes perfect sense to include them! I would feel left out if I was in your bridal party and wasn’t invited.

I think you should invite them, and say something like “we wanted to invite you to celebrate with us, but please know that if you are unable to make it, we totally understand.”

Post # 5
3322 posts
Sugar bee

@sweet5k:  I would definitely invite to be polite, but I would also express that you understand they don’t live close and don’t want anyone to feel obligated to attend.

Post # 6
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with PPs — invite them! You’re risking hurt feelings if you don’t. 

Post # 7
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

They should definitely be invited. I would just let them know that you understand they’d need to travel & just wanted to extend an invitation in case they could make it. 

Post # 8
273 posts
Helper bee

Of course they should be invited. It’s an invitation, not a summons. Most people know that just because they’re invited to something, doesn’t mean they’re expected to turn up if it’s an inconvenience.

If you’ve been reasonable in your expectations up until now, there’s no reason why they wouldn’t feel able to turn down the invite!

Post # 10
12003 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

i’d invite them and leave the choice to them.   Let them know you don’t expect them to travel, you just wanted to extend the invitation/let them know the party is happening.


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