(Closed) Should Bride to be know

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I hate to say this, but I really don’t think that this is your issue or your place to decide on the married BM’s behalf.

In my opinion, as long as this maid is willing to support the bride in her marriage and be a good friend to her, that’s what matters. The idea that she shouldn’t be "allowed" seems to be a little out of line. If I were in your position, I definitely wouldn’t support what the married bridesmaid was doing, but I’d feel that it wasn’t by any means my place to air her dirty laundry… Some people might not agree with me, but I really think this isn’t yours to decide or address with the bride. 



Post # 4
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m gonna say that:

a) It’s not your place to tell the bride
b) If she’s not bringing her "luvuh" to the wedding, it’s irrelevant.

This all would be bad blood between you the bride and the Bridesmaid or Best Man.  This is drama she doesn’t need on her big day.  For the sake of the event, I say let sleeping dogs lie until afterwards.  And afterwards the only person who should hear about it is the husband since it’s only his business.

Post # 5
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Welcome to the boards scorpiogal!  I have to agree with the two posters above.  If there is anyone you need to talk to it is the other Bridesmaid or Best Man because it obviously upsets you, but it is up to her to talk to the Bride if she wants to.

Post # 6
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I agree with the previous posters, it’s really not any of your business.  This girl is not harming your friend, there really isn’t a need to create drama.

Post # 7
217 posts
Helper bee

WHOA! Sounds like a situation I wouldn’t want to be a part of. I agree with the advice to take a back seat and stay out of it. As a bride to be I feel like I chose my friends to stand by me because I love them as friends. I don’t really look up to them as marriage role models. 

Post # 8
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I have to agree with the previous posters. While what the other Bridesmaid or Best Man is doing is not cool at all , it’s not your place to say anything. I was in a situation much the same a few months ago . Former friend who I knew was cheating in a mutiual friends wedding. In the end I did not want to create more drama for the bride. 

Post # 9
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

i’m going to have to agree with everyone else. telling her would just create more stress during an already stressful time. 

Post # 11
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, everyone answered the way I would have.  It’s a weird situation, but it’s not really ever any of our places to say.

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