(Closed) Should bridesmaids pay for their dresses?

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it reasonable for me to ask my bridesmaids to reimburse me for the cost of their dresses?

    Yes, of course!

    No, it should be the brides responsibility.

  • Post # 3
    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Definitely my bridesmaids will be paying for their own dress! I think it’s nice if you can afford to pay for it, but it’s definitely not the norm.

    Post # 4
    3928 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    It is the repsonsibility of the birdesmaids to pay for their own dresses. They generally know this when they accept the position. That being said, I paid for my ladies dresses. I am making them myself, so I just purchased the materials to make them on my own. You can always pay for them and let them know they owe you however much fro the dresses.

    Post # 5
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think everybody can. I am the only person I know who paid for their bridesmaids dresses, but only b/c my mom made them and they were $25 apiece for the fabric. I don’t think brides should pay for the dresses, but I don’t think they should necessarily go, “hey i picked out these dresses. Buy them” and they’re like, $350. I think it’s a two-way street. Respect the fact they’re buying money on a dress you want them to wear. But that’s me, i’m sorta anti-restrictive about those things. I dunno, we paid for our whole wedding so IMO, where there’s a will, there’s a way. I felt like it was the right thing to do. So did my mom.

    $60 apiece is AWESOME tho. Don’t feel guilty about that!!!!

    Post # 6
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    It’s the norm for the BMs to pay for their own attire.  They might even love you for picking a dress at such a great price (as long as it is not hideous! lol)!

    Post # 7
    3441 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When you are asked to be in a wedding, you know there is a cost involved. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask your bridesmaid to pay for their own gowns. I have never been in a wedding where the bride paid for my dress, but it is very much appreciated when they consider the cost when chosing a dress. $60 is so inexpensive your girls should be thrilled!

    Post # 9
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am paying for my bridesmaids dresses because I personally believe it is right for me.. I have been in a wedding where i had to shell out almost $300 on a hideous dress including alterations and its sitting in my closet.. I feel like if i’m making someone wear something, I cant also make them buy it.. So I am treating my BMs and I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂

    Post # 10
    660 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    My bridesmaids paid for their dresses, although I paid to have them rush ordered.  And $60 is a steal for bridesmaids dresses!

    Post # 11
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You could always gift them their dresses in lieu of presents. Most girls would be thrilled to receive a dress instead of traditional presents.

    I like the dress!

    Post # 12
    5280 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    That price is amazing!! perhaps that can be your gift for them as being attendants?  How much were you planning on spending on them for that?

    Post # 13
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I am only having a Maid/Matron of Honor and she’s my niece who just graduated, so she’s low on funds.  I paid for her dress and will get her accessories but she’ll be responsible for alterations, since she’ll be able to use it later.  But if I had a bigger bridal party, I’d have put it out from the beginning the expectation that each will be responsible for the costs.  That’s usually the prevailing view, so I’m sure they will have no problem.

    And that you kept the cost so low will be appreciated.

    Post # 14
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I voted for them paying for their own, but I will admit that I paid for one of my sisters.  It was only $50 fortunately and I felt bad that she was paying for airfare from California and she’s had to make an extra trip this year because my grandma died.  So I paid for her dress only to find out that my mom is paying for her plane ticket!  She’s a lucky girl!

    Post # 15
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    my bridesmaids are paying for theirs (sort of: my parents are probably paying for my sil’s dress and fi’s parents are def paying for fsil’s dress). before i picked out the dresses, i asked them each how much they were willing to spend, and then i paid for half the cost for the 2 who gave a number lower than the chosen dresses’ cost.

    Post # 16
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Yes, it is reasonable to ask them, as long as the price is reasonable as well.  With that said, my BM’s and I are splitting the cost of the dresses.  They are $175 each and I offered to pay $100 and they will be paying $75 🙂  Since I wanted them to wear one style of dress, I basically chose three designs and had them vote for their most favorite.  One was not happy because her choice didn’t win (she was the only one that chose a different dress) but hey, we gotta compromise, right?  Majority wins! 🙂

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