(Closed) Should Dad be invited/come to the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Wow, there’s a lot going on here – it’s good we got the whole back story. Honestly, I know things are a little tricky right now, but it sounds like your father honestly wants to come to your wedding to support you. I can’t say for certainty if he’ll be on his best behavior, but it sounds like he wants to do this for you, so I think he’ll probably do his best to hold his tongue. I also imagine your mother and stepfather love you enough to set aside their problems with your dad for one day for your wedding. Considering you’re not estranged from your father and not in a position where you want him completely out of your life, I’d invite him. Things will likely change in the future, hopefully for the better, and you don’t want a temporary disagreement to keep you from inviting your dad to your most important day.

Post # 5
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405 posts
Helper bee

I’m in the same situation except it’s my brother not my Dad. What we’re doing is inviting him and hoping he doesn’t come! BUT if he does I am sitting him with my more responsible brother who has my permission to ask (read: TELL) him to leave if he starts acting up. My brother is also an alcoholic so I’m going to have someone watch how much he drinks.
That is my only suggestion – invite him and ask for someone (impartial) to babysit him. I think that he’ll be on good behavior just because you gave him the "rules" WAY ahead of time and straight up (you didn’t sugar coat it – GOOD FOR YOU! :D). Good luck and let us know how it turns out!

Post # 6
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would invite him, but perhaps not have him walk me down the aisle or do a father-daughter dance. I just can’t imagine not inviting your dad, no matter how rocky of a relationship you have. Don’t invite him if you plan on burning that bridge forever, though. Everyone has crazy relatives we invite anyways and have "watched". That’s pretty normal.

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