(Closed) Should daughter wear dress purchased by Gma or ETSY gown? Pics Included

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should my daughter wear flower girl dress purchased by grandma or ETSY dress?
    Ivory ETSY Flower girl dress : (54 votes)
    25 %
    White dress purchased by Gma : (145 votes)
    68 %
    ETSY dress material doesn't go with your gown...find something else in Ivory : (15 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @slc201329:  I was raised by my grams, so maybe I’m biased. But I say dye the dress your grams got. I’m also biased in the fact that I don’t like tulle dresses for flower girl dresses. I’m really not much of help am I? Idk, just for me id love to use what my grandma got for her. It would make me feel more like she was there with me. A constant reminder of her.

    Post # 4
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I like the grandma dress better, even though its simple its just cute!

    I also like the sentimantal part of it

    Post # 5
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    How sentimental are you? The white one is certainly more sentimental, but it doesn’t sound like its the color or style you want.  As a PP mentioned, do you think maybe you could dye it ivory? Would that sway your decision or is it still just the wrong style?

    Post # 6
    1522 posts
    Bumble bee

    @slc201329:  I love the etsy one personally but like pp said if ur sentimental go with gmas it is still very nice

    Post # 7
    9119 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I like the grandmother’s dress.

    The etsy dress is…. just too much.

    Post # 8
    1118 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Trains can be difficult, and for a little girl I think that would be way too much. It would probably end up all tangled and nasty unless someone was following her around arranging it. I think the etsy one is way too much. Leave the focus on you!

    Post # 9
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    Agree with PP, the etsy dress is too much. I love the sentimental value the dress your grandma bought her has. Have you had her try on the dress while you have your dress on? If you take “sample photos” together, you might see that it’s not a huge clash in color in photos 🙂 

    Post # 10
    11105 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @slc201329: Because of the sentiment and my personal taste I’ve voted for the one your Grandma bought.

    Post # 11
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Grandma dress for sure. The flower girl’s dress shouldn’t look more traditionally bridal than the bride’s, and I’m afraid that with the wide, flowing skirt and the train that is, per foot of height, longer than yours, that might be the case. I think the grandma dress is a much better fit for your not insanely pouffy or traditionally “romantic” dress. Your dress is more blingy and chic. If you don’t want to go with grandma dress, you should look for something blingy and chic for her as well.


    Besides, PP are right. If she’s at all an average kid, that dress willl be completely destroyed by the end of the day. Especially on account of that train! IMO $140 is too much to spend on something that will wind up in tatters.


    Post # 12
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    I would go with the one from Grandma both for sentimental and stylistic reasons. It’s classy, simple, and perfect for a little girl – she’ll be comfortable and able to move around in it too!


    The Etsy one just looks way OTT, and personally I really hate one-shoulder dresses on little girls – it’s a neckline that looks too adult and I think out of place. Also, with that much skirt going on she’s going to struggle to run around and dance in it easily, so we won’t be comfortable.

    Plus, it’s not really a December dress, more summery in style.


    Save the money and get her some nice Christmas presents instead, and buy her a dream dress when she’s old enough to keep it forever and won’t grow out of it in six months!

    Post # 13
    11419 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009




    I think both of the flower girl dresses are beautiful in their own right, but, since your dress is not a tulle ball gown with a similar train, I think the etsy dress has the potential to upstage your own beautiful gown.

    I voted that you should find another ivory dress for your daughter, one that is more in keeping with the style of your own dress.

    Post # 14
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    How about the etsy one for the ceremony and pics and pop her in Grandmas dress for the reception?

    Post # 15
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @slc201329:  Can I be honest? I don’t think either dress is exactly right. 

    The Etsy one is just too grown up and dramatic for a flower girl, especially since your dress isn’t a tulle ball gown. I think you’d get some side-ways looks for putting your daughter in a dress like that. 

    The one purchased by your Gma is pretty but if you don’t like it then your Dirty Delete shouldn’t wear it. 

    I can think of two compromises here: 

    1) Let your daughter pick her own Flower Girl dress. If your daughter picks her dress (with some guidance of course) then you won’t have to feel bad about the decision because you’ll know that Dirty Delete is wearing what SHE wants to wear. Her choices shouldn’t be limited to the Etsy or Gma dresses, btw. 

    2) Have Dirty Delete wear the Gma dress, buy the Etsy dress and have a mother-daughter photo shoot in her Etsy dress and your wedding dress after the wedding is over. I think this would be really fun and not to mention adorable. 

    Post # 16
    1999 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    To be perfectly honest I don’t like the Etsy dress at all. I mean, it would be stunning on a grown woman but it’s a lot of dress for a little girl! 

    The dress your grandmother bought is lovely though, and it has sentimental value too. If you’re worried about clashing, maybe change the sash on your little girl’s dress for an ivory one or have the while dress dyed. But I really don’t think white and ivory clash at all – it’s a different dress, she’s a child and you’re an adult, there’s no need to have perfectly matching dresses, IMO.


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