(Closed) Should Ex’s Be Invited to Weddings?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite my ex-bf which is now my best friend to my wedding and make him my MOH?
    Don't invite any exs to your wedding : (58 votes)
    36 %
    Invite him to your wedding BUT don't make him your MOH : (85 votes)
    53 %
    Invite him to your wedding and make him your MOH : (17 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Depends on the situation.  But in general, I say no.

    Post # 4
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    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    you should put a poll up 🙂 

     

    @heathaah: I agree

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Hahaha do you watch How I Met Your Mother? There was an episode surrounding this issue….Ted gets left at the altar because his fiance realizes she has feelings for her Ex.

    But in all seriousness, if your Ex is close to both of you, and you are both comfortable with it, i don’t see the issue!

    Post # 6
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it sort of depends.  Fiance has a few high school girlfriends coming to the wedding (hell, one of them is singing at our ceremony, LOL!)

    Post # 7
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    If you want him there, your Fiance wants him there (or at least doesn’t object), and he wants to be there– go for it. You three are really the only ones that matter in this equation 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i think it’s fine to invite ex’s that are now good friends. does your ex hang out with you and your fi? would your fi be uncomfortable if you make your ex your moh?

    i think it would be fine to make him your moh, but make sure to run it by fi. whatever he decides goes.

    Post # 9
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree that it depends. But if your ex is your best friend and your Fiance is comfortable with that, then I think it would be fine to invite him to the wedding. I’m not sure about Man of Honor though, but then again I don’t know the whole situation.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My best friend is also my ex, he lives in a different country tho so I dont have to worry about this, I would invite him but not include him in the bridal party. But it all really depends on ur relationship with him

    Post # 12
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t vote in the poll, but it’s definitely going to depend on the people involved and the situation. If you dated years and years ago, I wouldn’t see any harm in it at all if your FI’s completely kosher with it.

    Post # 13
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    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    In general, I say no, never, absolutely not.  Exes don’t belong at weddings. If your Fiance and your ex are friends, though, and your Fiance would be upset about his absence, then go ahead and invite him.  Do NOT make your ex your Maid/Matron of Honor, though.

    Post # 14
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    my FI’s high school and college girlfriends will be at our wedding….i guess that sounds weird but he stayed very good friends with both of them. at this point, i’m probably better friends with his HS gf than he is. he dated them 15 and 10 years ago respectively, so i guess that’s why it doesn’t bother me. i asked if he wanted to include either of them in the ceremony but he thought that wold be weird. doesn’t bother me though….so i vote for having him as your Maid/Matron of Honor but check with your Fiance first to make sure he is ok with it.

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @bunnie2013: I have ex bf’s that I am still friends with. We have moved on with our lives but kept in contact. I don’t see why it would be a problem if you are still friends and your Fiance is fine with it. My best friend is actually an ex. (We dated for like 2 seconds in high school and then had “relations” during one summer) He’s the “godfather” of my child and he is my best friend. He’s also really good friends with my SO. He’s married and while at first his wife had a problem with our friendship, she has come around because he told her point blank that he would not stop talking to me for her. We have known each other since the 5th grade are basically like family.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    One of my ex’s is my best friend and he is doing the music for our reception.  If I were having a bridal party, he would definitely be in it.  We didn’t work as bf and gf, but we are very good friends.  I was brought up to believe that people can be friends with the opposite sex and while things were tricky for a while after we dated, it was YEARS ago and we are over it.  Let the good friend times roll.

    If your FH is cool with it, then I say go for it.  

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