(Closed) Should FI be identified as “Dr.” or not?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

In my opinion that should only be for medical doctors, although I think it is also practiced for Phd graduates; however, we didn’t address my FI as "Dr." for our invitation, we only used his name.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’ve got a PhD in Molecular Biology and it didn’t even cross my mind to put Dr. on the invite.  I think it’s kind of pretentious to always have to use your title in your personal life (Esquire, Dr., Prof. etc)- your family and friends don’t care about your title!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree with rosychicklet – if I received a wedding invitation with the title Dr. on it (be it medical doctor OR PhD’s) I would think it was quite pretentious.  Weddings are about the couple – not about their titles.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I believe it’s dependent on the formality of the wedding.  If it’s a white engraved invitation for a white tie evening wedding, I think etiquette states that you put the title on (all kinds of titles:  Doctor, General, Esquire, etc.) for everyone who has one (happy couple and parents).

But my wedding is no where near that formal, and I really don’t like using my PhD title, so I’m not putting it on my invite.

Do what you’re comfortable with!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I always make it a point to include PhD’s on our invitations. It’s a honor to receive one. It’s 4+ years of VERY hard work! But it really depends on the person. Some people (professors mostly) get really offended if you don’t use "Dr. and Mrs." when addressing them. However, I have coworkers with their PhD’s who would NEVER want you to call them Dr. That being said, if somebody overlooks it, I wouldn’t think twice about it. It’s hard to keep tabs on who has a PhD, etc, especially in the Engineering World.

Are you talking about your OWN invitation??? As in "Dr. and Mrs. are getting married?" Maybe I misunderstood the post. I would not include your own title on your own invitation…I thought you were discussing about addressing invitations. That being said, I’m sure your Fiance has lots of colleagues with PhD’s, too. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I remember reading that etiquette dictates that an academic PhD should only be used in its proper context; medical doctors may use their titles at all times. Sorry, I can’t remember where I found that particular rule!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Are you talking wording an invitation something like this:

Mr. and Mrs. Engaged request the honor of your presence at the marriage ceremony of their daughter Fabulously Marie to Dr. Chemical Engineering…

Gosh, I’m not sure.  Maybe it should boil down to what he wants.  There are a few Dr.s in my family.  I usually address the phD as "Dr." on mail, because I think it’s a nice gesture to him.  On the other hand, if he was sending something and kept addressing himself as Dr., I would find it a bit nauseating. 

If you put it on there, some folks will probably think, medical doctor.  But if he really wants it, who’s it really going to hurt?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If you’re question is referring to addressing invitees – I would address them as Dr., whether they have a PhD or an MD.  My dad is a professor at Columbia University and we are inviting many of his colleagues.  Wow would they be offended if we wrote Mr. or Mrs. instead of Dr.!  So I think it also depends on age and whether or not they are your friends or your parents’s friends as using the proper title is a sign of respect.  I have friends with both their PhD’s and MD’s and they could care less what we address them as, although I would still address them as Dr. regardless of the actual degree.  That’s just my experience and my opinion though!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would refer to the etiquette books on this one for sure!  My stb Father-In-Law has a PhD and my bro in law is an MD..and I wondered about this one..

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I don’t know the specific guidelines, but if I had earned a PhD I’d be using the Dr. all the time 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think it is only for medical people

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Yeah my fiancee is a physician and we probably won’t do the doctor thing on our invites (though when referring to his late father on the invite, who was a physiican we probably will…) 

A few or our physician friends are getting married this summer so I think we’ll take cues from them.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it helps any my Fiance also has a PhD in Chem. Eng. as do the majority of his friends.  Over the past few years we’ve been to a few weddings and 1 of the 4 used the Doctor designation in the wording of their invites.  The one that did was a very formal affair.

We didn’t use his formal title in the wording for our invites, however we will use the formal designation for any of our guests when we address the invites.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

Echoing ggsb – you should always address invites to anyone w/ a PHd or MD as "Dr." as well as judges ("Honorable").

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