(Closed) Should FI be identified as “Dr.” or not?

posted 12 years ago in Paper
Post # 17
45 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

i keep telling my fiance that when they introduced us after the ceremony they are going to have to say Mr. and Dr. i don’t really want to, but it is fun to tease him!

Post # 18
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

maybe use John Doe, PhD?  or John Doe, M.D.

In my country, it’s normal for the degrees to be listed after the person’s name.

Post # 19
3793 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We left off the titles.  I have several degrees… think MD PhD or MD MPH, and it just seemed silly.  I rarely use the title in real life anyway and my patients call me by my first name.  Though I think of myself as a physician at work, I don’t think of myself that way in my personal life the same way.

Post # 20
1194 posts
Bumble bee

Danaadell – I hadn’t even thought of that yet, they’ll announce us as "Dr. and Mrs." too.  weird! 


Post # 22
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you went the right way.  If you aren’t in a context where you are choosing between Dr. and Mr., it really makes no sense to include the title (whether for an MD or PhD).  Assuming you hold some kind of degree (H/S, BA/S, MA/S) whatever, you are not listing that on your invite either.

So either it should be Miss Sara Smith to Dr Don Won


Sara Smith to Don Won

But why does he get a title and you don’t?

Yes, I worked really hard for my degree, and in certain professional contexts I expect to be acknowledged as "Dr."…but Ms or Dr is fine socially (my friends think it’s funny to use "Drs." for us)…and never when everyone els is just use their name without any title at all.

Post # 23
222 posts
Helper bee
  • V
  • 12 years ago

I wouldn’t use it…

1. pretentious

2. oh, so you’re marrying a doctor?

3. what kind of doctor is he?

4. OH, he’s not a real doctor….

Kudos to your Fiance but I would find it pretentious and funny at the same time.

Good luck! 

Post # 24
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

I would do it for a MD, but not a PhD. Also, I’m married to a lawyer and he would NEVER put Esquire on anything…EVER. 🙂

Post # 25
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

Oh and you should totally call him Dr. Don Won…that’s funny! 😉

Post # 27
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

So that’s not how you went?  What did you choose?  I’m curious b/c we have the same issue (we’re both PhD’s, his dad is an MD, both my folks are MDs).  I lean toward first names for us.  My Mom often uses Mrs. socially, so that could go either way, but I lean toward just using parents full names w/o titles as well (I htink that’s mostly what I’ve seen, e.g.:

Mary and John Smith request your presence at the marriage of their daughter

Sara Smith to

Mike Jones

Son of Louise and Preston Jones.

By The Way, we’re date twins 🙂

Post # 28
19 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

Congrats to your FH on receiving his PhD. The use of "Dr." is well-deserved, and contrary to popular belief, is not reserved just for MDs. Anyone who has gone to a university and has had a "Dr." as a professor knows this.

That said, "Dr." is really intended for professional use. A wedding is very personal, and in my mind, I don’t think Dr. should be used as in this capacity. Then again, it is *your* wedding, and if you both want to use "Dr.", go for it!

Post # 29
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

You solution is exactly what I would have suggested.

I think that you should use Doctor when appropriate, because that is a HUGE title and your Fiance worked very hard to get that title.

However, I don’t think its right on the invitation. Because you don’t have a title before your name.

If you were going to say: 


<span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-family: tahoma; font-size: 13px”>

Mr. & Mrs John Smith request the honor of their presence at the daughter of

MISS Sara Smith to 

<span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-family: tahoma; font-size: 13px”>DOCTOR Don Won…. 


then it would be ok. But if you don’t have a title before your  name, then he shouldn’t have one before his.

However,  for the other people out there who had similar questions, I think its ok to use Doctor in the title of the parents…

For example:

Doctor and Mrs. John Smith invite you to…


OR if you were to say:

Mr & Mrs John Smith invite you to the wedding of their daughter

Amy Lynn


Robert Lee Jones

son of Mr. and Doctor Jones….


I think that is an acceptable way to use Doctor, and you should really ask the person what they would like to be called. Some people always go by "Doctor" and others hardly use it. But its better to ask than to apologize after it has already been printed!

Post # 30
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

MD’s should always put Dr. It’s not pretentious when that’s their real title. If you went to school for 8+ years, you would use it, too. Would you call your MD Mr. Jones? No. You’d call him Dr. Jones.

Post # 31
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

MD’s should always put Dr. It’s not pretentious when that’s their real title

For a PhD it’s their REAL title too.  You wouldn’t call your professor who has a PhD Mr Jones any more than you would call your OB/GYN who has an MD Mr Jones.  

Anyone who thinks using a PhD is pretentious is probably not in tune with academia.  People who don’t understand that someone is a PhD and would ask “oh, you mean he’s not a REAL doctor” just shows their lack of education…. it does NOT show the pretentiousness of someone with a PhD.

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