(Closed) Should FMIL's SO get a bout as well?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should FMIL's boyfriend also get a bout?
    Yes : (5 votes)
    38 %
    No : (8 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 3
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didn’t order one for my dads wife. They’ve been married a few years but i’ve only met her a couple of times as they live in another country so i didn’t get her one – as far as i’m concerned they’re for parents. it may cause tension but i’m not really concerned to be honest.

    Post # 4
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsBeck:  I’m guessing FSMIL = Future Step Mother In Law… which equates to MARRIED to your FFIL. That makes her family in my book whereas FMIL’s BF isn’t family… he’s her date.


    Ultimately it is up to you; you can always go to a local florist or supermarket floral department to get him a boutinniere to smooth over the feelings. A lot of weddings I went to; all the “helpers” and any family members helping out by distributing programs/ushering all got simpler corsages/boutinniers.


    Post # 5
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’d say no. He isn’t a guest of honor, which is who I think should wear a boutineer. 

    Although, if it is going to cause an issue with FMIL…they’re just flowers so I’d give in.

    Post # 6
    2499 posts
    Buzzing bee

    No. You’re recognizing people who have had an impact on your life or your FI’s life. If you think about it, it’s like having to recognize your bridal party’s SOs (which doesn’t make sense) simply because they’re dating. Personally, I would only give corsages and boutonnieres to those who are directly related to me, and step-moms/step-dads if they played a significant role in my life or my SO’s life.

    Post # 8
    1226 posts
    Bumble bee

    Personally I think bouts/corsages are meant to recognize parents or step-parents who have made an impact on the couple their whole lives, not someone a parent is dating. I think a step-parent/parent’s SO should get one only if the couple feels they should.

    Post # 10
    1082 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    They have only been together a year, so I say no.

    Post # 11
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    If it will save you an earful, then do it. There are bigger and better things to be worrying about so just check it off your list 🙂

    Post # 12
    7564 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    What does your FI think? You said they’ve only seen each other a few times. If that’s the case I would probably say no.

    How upset do you think your FMIL is going to be though? If it’s going to be a huge, stinkin deal I would probably just order the bout. 

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