Post # 1
The title pretty much says it all. When I ordered flowers we got a corsage for FSMIL as she is married to FFIL but I did not order a boutonniere for FMIL’s boyfriend. She has since found out that FSMIL will be getting a corsage and isn’t very happy that we did not order one for her SO. Do SOs of parents typically get one? They have been together for about a year, but when I asked the florist she seemed fairly certain that usually SOs don’t get one.
Should I just get him one to soothe over the tension? I’m not sure if I can even add to my order anymore- my florist was pretty strict about knowing exact numbers for everything by 6/8.
Post # 3
I didn’t order one for my dads wife. They’ve been married a few years but i’ve only met her a couple of times as they live in another country so i didn’t get her one – as far as i’m concerned they’re for parents. it may cause tension but i’m not really concerned to be honest.
Post # 4
@MrsBeck: I’m guessing FSMIL = Future Step Mother In Law… which equates to MARRIED to your FFIL. That makes her family in my book whereas FMIL’s BF isn’t family… he’s her date.
Ultimately it is up to you; you can always go to a local florist or supermarket floral department to get him a boutinniere to smooth over the feelings. A lot of weddings I went to; all the “helpers” and any family members helping out by distributing programs/ushering all got simpler corsages/boutinniers.
Post # 5
I’d say no. He isn’t a guest of honor, which is who I think should wear a boutineer.
Although, if it is going to cause an issue with FMIL…they’re just flowers so I’d give in.
Post # 6
No. You’re recognizing people who have had an impact on your life or your FI’s life. If you think about it, it’s like having to recognize your bridal party’s SOs (which doesn’t make sense) simply because they’re dating. Personally, I would only give corsages and boutonnieres to those who are directly related to me, and step-moms/step-dads if they played a significant role in my life or my SO’s life.
Post # 7
@somethingaquamarine: This is a great point! Thanks! All the others receiving bouts and corsages have played an important part in our lives while we both have only seen FMIL’s SO twice so this makes a lot of sense.
Post # 8
Personally I think bouts/corsages are meant to recognize parents or step-parents who have made an impact on the couple their whole lives, not someone a parent is dating. I think a step-parent/parent’s SO should get one only if the couple feels they should.
Post # 9
@MrsBeck: No problem! Hope it works out!
Post # 10
They have only been together a year, so I say no.
Post # 11
If it will save you an earful, then do it. There are bigger and better things to be worrying about so just check it off your list 🙂
Post # 12
What does your FI think? You said they’ve only seen each other a few times. If that’s the case I would probably say no.
How upset do you think your FMIL is going to be though? If it’s going to be a huge, stinkin deal I would probably just order the bout.