Post # 1
My fiancee’s close friend was supposed to get married in October. All along we’d been discussing eachother’s weddings. We were invited to theirs and they knew we planned to invite them to our small wedding.
A couple weeks before their wedding they called it off. We are only really friends with the guy and only knew her through him.
To add to the confusion the guy and girl have remained close friends.
Are we obligated to still invite her since we originally told them they were invited as a couple?
We gave the guy his invite- with an “and guest” so they could still go together if they wanted and he outright asked if the “guest” was her or if she was getting her own invitation.
Post # 3
I believe an ‘and guest’ should be sufficient. I don’t think it would be really fair to retract his ‘and guest’, or to send her an invitation without an ‘and guest’, allowing him the choice of bringing a date, potentially making it awkward for the parties involved. Seeing as you only knew her through him, you may not want to send her a separate invite with an ‘add guest’, because who knows who she may show up with? I think either you should give him the option of who the ‘and guest’ is, or inform him that he was allowed an ‘and guest’ with her specifically in mind. If he decides to bring another date, and you still want to invite her, I think it would be only fair that she would be allowed an ‘and guest’ as well.
It sounds like you only put the ‘and guest’ because of wanting her to have the option of attending like you had planned before, so I think personally you should tell him that the ‘and guest’ was meant for her only.
If it comes down to it, you could retract his ‘and guest’ and send her an invite excluding that option as well. It’s personally whatever you are comfortable with, or what you think they would be comfortable with, potentially being there with other dates as well, or only one having a date for the event.
Good luck! Let me know what you decide :]
Post # 4
ya, i would tell him the “and guest” is for her, however, he is allowed to bring someone other than her! but she doesnt need her own invite
Post # 5
Agree with the others. I would just invite him and let them figure it out.