(Closed) Should have known this would happen…MOH issues

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It sounds like you need to be straight with her and tell her that your sister is going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, not her. If you are worried that she will change things behind your back, I would say you shouldn’t clue her in to everything you are doing. Be firm with her and let her know that it is your wedding, not hers, and that you will be making the decisions and start planning when you feel it is appropriate. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldnt worry, the wedding is ages away, she is just excited and in her own crazy way this is her way of showing it. She will calm down and honestly there is plenty of time for you to sort out how to quietly do things your way.

My best friend is the same, it took her 3 months to calm down. I just rode it out. Remember there is a reason she is your best friend.

Maybe tell her you are having 2 MOHs?

Post # 6
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well then have no bridesmaids. Problem solved.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Jacqui90:  You need to listen to yourself. This person sounds like she will take advantage of everything. Do not, I repeat, do not make her Maid/Matron of Honor. Maid of Honor is a position of honor, in honor of your marriage and wedding day. From what you describe, there doesn’t seem to be much honorable about her, wouldn’t you agree? In fact, it sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with her, friend to friend, above and beyond any wedding planning. After 19 years people change and it might be time this friendship to be reevaluated.

@LessIsMoore: Seconded. Well said. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have a friend who is going to FLIP out if she is not a Bridesmaid or Best Man….so I told her I wasnt choosing my wedding party for a while as we are not getting married till 2014 and I dont know who I will be close to then…..to avoid having to tell her I am unsure if I want her in my wedding at alll…tell her you will decide on all these other things when you have a date set that will avoid the conversations all together

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

sorry double post

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Jacqui90:   My Fiance came up with a wonderful solution to the trying ” Who will be Maid/Matron of honor. He just told me to make them ” Maids of Equality” No one person is more special than the other. I have divided up the typical Maid/Matron of Honor duties between the 3 of them. One will plan the Bach party, one will pick the dresses and the other will do the bridal shower. i matched the jobs with their personalties and so far everyone is happy with my choice and it has saved me from hurting anyones feelings ( that i know of). I just explained to them that they are all important in my life and i don’t want to choose one over the other.

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