(Closed) Should he bother?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Seems a bit late to worry about such a thing. Since it matters to your dad maybe your Fiance and he can just have a guys day or something. Go see a game, go play pool,  go eat somewhere or see a guy movie, and your Fiance can just say something about thanking him for being supportive……

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I had my Darling Husband talk to my dad because I knew it mattered to my Dad….but that’s just me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I, personally, am not close to my father at all.  Fiance didn’t ask either parent for permission.  That kind of thing is, once again, a prehistoric notion.  This is 2011.  It might be important for your dad, but you guys are already engaged, it’s kinda too late to ask.  Maybe your Fiance and your dad can sit down and talk.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance didn’t ask for my hand in marriage (I’m 40 years old) BUT because it seems important to your dad, I would mention it to your Fiance and see what he says.  If you’re all on good terms, I don’t see a reason why your Fiance couldn’t ask, just to appease your father.  It sounds like your dad has good intentions and is just a little old fashioned in wanting to give his blessing. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Since it seems important to your dad, I would ask your Fiance what he thinks of getting together with him and asking for his blessing or something.

I can understand if you don’t want him to ask for “your hand” or something (and since you are already engaged its a bit late for that anyway).  But asking for your dad’s blessing and support would probably mean a lot to him.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My husband didn’t ask my dad… but that’s just b/c my family has big mouths and he didn’t want to ruin the surprise. I understood.

But if it’s important to your dad, I don’t see why they couldn’t have a little talk about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If its important to your dad, it would be nice for Fiance to talk to him. On a side note, my Fiance talked to my dad first, showed him the ring, and asked him what he thought. It totally went over my dad’s head and he was like “I don’t know, you should probably talk to her about it and not me…” Lol He completely missed that this was a traditional thing (he’s not from the US).

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