Should husband attend funeral?

posted 7 months ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you be upset in this situation?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    44 %
    No : (24 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    6023 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I don’t think your husband should be obligated to go to your uncle’s funeral.

    I DO think you should start exploring not attending his family’s events if/when you do not want to. His mother is not the queen. She doesn’t get to command audiences from her family. And if people are only coming to her gatherings because she threatens or bullies them, that’s really problematic.

    Post # 17
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee

    Sounds like this is more than just about the funeral. I would tell him you want him there and, assuming he’s a reasonable person, he will make the effort to attend with you.  If he doesn’t,  i would make plans to have a serious conversation about boundaries and expectations (which sounds overdue anyway).

    Post # 18
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    11784 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    H and I have shown up for each other’s family when it was a lot less convenient and more of a conflict, so yes, the attitude that he wouldn’t skip the need to do something fun for a family funeral would bother me. If it’s important to you that he be there, that’s all that counts. 

    Your in law issue would be unacceptable. 

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