Should I accept a counter offer from my job?

posted 6 months ago in Career
Post # 2
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Oof that’s tough, why were you looking to begin with? I honestly could never commute over an hour so I would be at the new job with bells on but that’s just me!

Post # 3
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

bsquare04 :  I’d still take the new job, especially if you plan on having a baby. Even though the old job has more vacation time, id rather not work as long every day, though commute isn’t paid work. Maternity leave isn’t forever. Once you have a baby, you will probably take a pay cut to work closer to home. Commute= babysitter cost, extra day care cost if you can’t be there to pick your child up on time.

Post # 4
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I had a conversation once with a honcho at my old job. He said it never worked when they made a counter offer to a restless employee who got another job. There is always a reason why someone goes looking, and it is there even if they entice them to stay. Best to move on. 

It wasn’t a situation with me, it was just a general conversation. The 1.5 hour commute would be enough to do me  in.

Post # 5
14882 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d do it even without the raise for the commute alone.  Agree with DanaWeddingGuest also, you looked AND accepted for a reason.  You’ve got one foot out the door, might as well keep going now.  Besides if you stay now, how will they treat you knowing you were willing to leave?  And even if you can work from home 4 days a week, that’s still more drive time than the new job.  2 more holidays and 1.5 hours sick time isnt much…. 2 weeks of PTO is a lot, but will it go up with the new job?  And honestly if you consider an hour less commute each way a day – 2 hrs a day, 10 hrs a week, you’d have 80 hrs/2 weeks of time of your life back to yourself in just 8 weeks.  Granted you cant take it to go on a 2 weeek vacation, but that commute alone is easily 10 hours a week of your life you’d get back.

Post # 6
2033 posts
Buzzing bee

bsquare04 :  I just did a calculation on gas for a commute that long for me (I drive a CR-V). My tank costs roughly $28 to fill up, and a 1.5hr commute (3hrs round-trip) would require me to fill up every day just about. Filling up 5x weekly for 52 weeks is almost $8,000…well over half of the $12k (before taxes) raise you’d be receiving. After taxes, the $12k will likely end up looking more like $8k…


I would take the new job, bee. That 10 minute commute is something that money cannot buy. 

Post # 7
2798 posts
Sugar bee

I would tell the new job you got a great counter offer and try to negotiate for more vacation time. 

Post # 8
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

A ten-minute commute is priceless; this wouldn’t even be a question for me.

Post # 9
570 posts
Busy bee

I would ask to work from home 2 -3 days a week and stay at your current job with a raise. 

Post # 10
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was always told never to accept a counter offer from your current job. People don’t forget that you were about to leave. 

Post # 11
3341 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You’re spending 50 hours a month in traffic.

Take the new job.

Post # 12
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I like where zl27 : ‘s head is at! But yeah, if you’re TTC a short commute is where you’re going to want to be. I had my first child 4 months ago and I quit my job because of the commute (plus TBH, I wanted extra time home with babe). Going back to work after maternity leave is hard enough, but being away from your baby for an extra 3 hours a day while commuting would be torture. Plus, what if baby gets sick at daycare and needs to be picked up? It’d be so so so much easier to be close.

Post # 13
6353 posts
Bee Keeper

the commute alone would do it for me and the raise.  

Post # 14
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’d say take the new job. Got to ask why you’re looking for a new job when you’re TTC? Do they not give you much maternity leave?

Can’t imagine being at a new job here & after being there a few months saying “hey I’m pregnant and need a year off ‘.

Post # 15
302 posts
Helper bee

If you are TTC, I would think twice about changing jobs. You won’t qualify for FMLA until you are there a full year 

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