Post # 1
Hi Bees! Recently, I accepted a job offer for a more senior team lead position, with a $12,000 a year raise, and a less than 10 min. commute from my home. I gave my notice to my manager yesterday and she let me know that she had been working on a promotion for me for a team lead position as well and that they just hadnt told me yet because the salary and everything hadnt been finalized. I do really think she was sincere because she had the job description that they created for me ready. My main problem is that my curent commute is 1 hour to 1.5 hours one way. The new job would be less than 10 min one way. My manager is asking me what it would take for me to stay. Higher salary? Flexible hours? Maybe working from home once a week?. I do like my current company and the people, but that daily commute is wearing me down. Its stop and go traffic. The medical benefits and 401k are similar but with my current job I would have 2 weeks more vacation, 2 more holidays, and 1.5 hours more sick time. We also get out 3 hours early every summer Friday, have fun activities, and free snacks and drinks. I dont think the new job has the same perks, but I do feel like I would have a good work life balance. My husband and I are TTC so the shorter commute would help, but I would have more PTO built up with my current job for maternity leave and doctor’s appts. Also, I’m more familar with my current jobs systems and procedures so it would be easier to transition into a leadership role. Im just note sure what to do and need to have an answer for my current job tomorrow. Any feedeback is appreciated. Thanks bees!
Post # 2
Oof that’s tough, why were you looking to begin with? I honestly could never commute over an hour so I would be at the new job with bells on but that’s just me!
Post # 3
bsquare04 : I’d still take the new job, especially if you plan on having a baby. Even though the old job has more vacation time, id rather not work as long every day, though commute isn’t paid work. Maternity leave isn’t forever. Once you have a baby, you will probably take a pay cut to work closer to home. Commute= babysitter cost, extra day care cost if you can’t be there to pick your child up on time.
Post # 4
I had a conversation once with a honcho at my old job. He said it never worked when they made a counter offer to a restless employee who got another job. There is always a reason why someone goes looking, and it is there even if they entice them to stay. Best to move on.
It wasn’t a situation with me, it was just a general conversation. The 1.5 hour commute would be enough to do me in.
Post # 5
I’d do it even without the raise for the commute alone. Agree with DanaWeddingGuest also, you looked AND accepted for a reason. You’ve got one foot out the door, might as well keep going now. Besides if you stay now, how will they treat you knowing you were willing to leave? And even if you can work from home 4 days a week, that’s still more drive time than the new job. 2 more holidays and 1.5 hours sick time isnt much…. 2 weeks of PTO is a lot, but will it go up with the new job? And honestly if you consider an hour less commute each way a day – 2 hrs a day, 10 hrs a week, you’d have 80 hrs/2 weeks of time of your life back to yourself in just 8 weeks. Granted you cant take it to go on a 2 weeek vacation, but that commute alone is easily 10 hours a week of your life you’d get back.
Post # 6
bsquare04 : I just did a calculation on gas for a commute that long for me (I drive a CR-V). My tank costs roughly $28 to fill up, and a 1.5hr commute (3hrs round-trip) would require me to fill up every day just about. Filling up 5x weekly for 52 weeks is almost $8,000…well over half of the $12k (before taxes) raise you’d be receiving. After taxes, the $12k will likely end up looking more like $8k…
I would take the new job, bee. That 10 minute commute is something that money cannot buy.
Post # 7
I would tell the new job you got a great counter offer and try to negotiate for more vacation time.
Post # 8
A ten-minute commute is priceless; this wouldn’t even be a question for me.
Post # 9
I would ask to work from home 2 -3 days a week and stay at your current job with a raise.
Post # 10
I was always told never to accept a counter offer from your current job. People don’t forget that you were about to leave.
Post # 11
You’re spending 50 hours a month in traffic.
Take the new job.
Post # 12
I like where zl27 : ‘s head is at! But yeah, if you’re TTC a short commute is where you’re going to want to be. I had my first child 4 months ago and I quit my job because of the commute (plus TBH, I wanted extra time home with babe). Going back to work after maternity leave is hard enough, but being away from your baby for an extra 3 hours a day while commuting would be torture. Plus, what if baby gets sick at daycare and needs to be picked up? It’d be so so so much easier to be close.
Post # 13
the commute alone would do it for me and the raise.
Post # 14
I’d say take the new job. Got to ask why you’re looking for a new job when you’re TTC? Do they not give you much maternity leave?
Can’t imagine being at a new job here & after being there a few months saying “hey I’m pregnant and need a year off ‘.
Post # 15
If you are TTC, I would think twice about changing jobs. You won’t qualify for FMLA until you are there a full year