Should I add cap sleeves to my dress? Pics included!

posted 1 year ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I do strapless, cap sleeves, or detachable cap sleeves?
    It looks best strapless! : (15 votes)
    25 %
    Add the sleeves so you know your fiance will like it! : (26 votes)
    43 %
    Detach them and just go strapless for the reception! : (19 votes)
    32 %
    Other. Please specify below. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Canada

    I actually love the cap sleeves! 

    My dress is strapless (I wanted cap sleeves but couldn’t find any!) and my Fiance told me after the fact that he doesn’t like strapless.  I revealed that my dress is strapless because I started worrying about it too much.  He reassured me that he will love me in whatever I’m wearing.  I think he finds that women in strapless dresses spend a lot of time pulling up the dress.  I’m not large chested, so I think I’ll be fine!

    Post # 3
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    106 posts
    Blushing bee

    Both ways look great but I like the sleeves just a little more than strapless. To me it looks more timeless. I really love the idea of detaching them for the reception though and having your absolute full range of motion for dancing haha

    My boyfriend also dislikes the look of dresses and shirts that are strapless but for some reason he feels like wedding dresses are an exception. Your fiance will think you (and the dress) are beautiful no matter what style you choose but I think having the option is great. 

    Post # 4
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    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d vote no.  Your Fiance specifically said he thinks boobs look too low in strapless dresses. Adding removable cap sleeves to a strapless dress isn’t going to change the neckline or magically raise boob-level.  

    Post # 5
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I really like the cap sleeves. My friend had almost the exact dress for her wedding last summer with the same straps and she looked amazing. I think they look great on you.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Don’t make a decision based off what you think your fiance likes. When it comes down to it, the day of, as you’re walking down the isle, I doubt he’d notice whether your dress has sleeves or not.

    That being said, I think the cap sleeves look amazing and work really well with your dress! 

    Post # 7
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    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    I like the sleeves, but if you fell in love with the dress that was strapless, I say go with it. FH will love you in it no matter what!

    Post # 8
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    203 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I prefer the look of the cap sleeves, but I think you should wear whatever makes you feel the most beautiful and comfortable. 

    Post # 9
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I voted to add the cap sleeves – not because your fiance would like them – but because I like the dress better that way

    Post # 10
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    4499 posts
    Honey bee

    How much are they?  I would probably just order them and then see.

    I was going to say no, because I didn’t realize the picture wouldn’t be the ones you are ordering.  The ones in the picture just look awkward and misplaced rather than seamless.  But if those aren’t the ones that match the dress then it is possible my opinion would change.  

    I think you are fine either way though.  I do understand what he means about some strapless dresses (I’ve seen it on red carpets), but I don’t think your dress is that way.  I think it has to do more with dress design, body type, torso length, boning and support in the dress, etc. as to how the neckline falls.  Keep in mind that if he is judging based on celebrity dresses rather than his own wealth of experience wearing evening gowns, while many have enviable bodies, they are usually borrowing sample dresses that are not precisely tailored to their measurements and in some cases they are picking these dresses with very short notice.  And some cases may be some women or designs prefer the dress to sit that way.  I would really not worry about his opinion on this.

    Post # 11
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    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I would add the cap sleeves – the dress looks better with sleeves.  (I, personally, would not factor in fiance’s opinion, lol…..but that is just me!)

    Post # 12
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    4559 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it looks nicer with the sleeves. 

    Post # 13
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    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - A historic Art Deco and French Renaissance Theatre

    I’m not a cap sleeve person but I actually really like them with your dress! To me it completes the look. If it were me I’d go with detachable to have the best of both worlds and be able to have pictures of both! The mid section of my gown is sheer and I’m having a removable modesty panel put in it. That way it keeps the elegant look I’m going for with the ceremony but I can then take it out to have a bit more fun at the reception and really wow my new hubby! 

    Post # 14
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    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I like the sleeves but if your not sure order them make them detachable and if you change your mind you can remove them. You can still remove them for some of your pictures. Better to order them and have the option later. 

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I think it depends on the look you are after and the vibe of your wedding.. to me, the strapless looks soo flattering on you, you have amazing shoulders. I’m sure your groom would love you in it! (my hubby always thinks something is ugly until he sees it actually ON me) That look is more youthful and fresh to me, whereas the cap sleeves is more modest/ conservative/ classic, but also very beautiful. I’d say to wear the straps for a church or classic style wedding, but strapless for beach/ outdoor. 

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