(Closed) Should I address this or ignore it…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d ignore it. You’re not even engaged yet, don’t worry about anything right now.

Post # 4
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Lyndzo:  +1

Just smile and nod LOL

Post # 6
1089 posts
Bumble bee

I would ignore them or say something like, “We’re not even engaged yet, and I’m not picking my bridal party at this time.”

One of my best friends recently got engaged, and everyone knew she and her Fiance were going to get engaged.  She made it very clear from the beginning that they don’t want a huge wedding party and that they weren’t making any promises to anyone until they actually started planning the wedding.  Period.


Post # 7
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yep, I would just ignore it. You aren’t engaged yet, so what does it matter? Sometimes people talk just to talk and don’t realize how they might come off. Besides, when you do get engaged, you will be the one planning, not them!

Post # 8
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BirdyBe:  I have the same problem! My BFs best friend started dating this girl about 8 months ago, we became close but she assumes shes in our wedding( im not even engaged yet) and she constantly asks my bf..” I need to know atleast 2 months before you ask her to marry you, so i can start working out..i want to be a really hot bridesmaid” UGH!

Post # 9
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@FutureMrs.browneyes:  the mean part of me wants to tell you to let her think she will be a bridesmaid..so that when she starts working out you can have a more accurate countdown : ) But people are weird about weddings…and often don’t take your feelings into account when they start planning stuff for you. I am not engaged, but when my friend was people she barely talked to, childhood friends and her DH’s family, were coming out of the woodwork to make suggestions (read: demands).

Post # 11
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would ignore it but I can understand your anxiety. I was just thinking if I was in this position, it’s a little awkward when someone says that to you!

Post # 12
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@BirdyBe:  Oh my! Drama beginning already! I would address it just as, “we’re not even engaged so I really haven’t thought about bridesmaids/bridesmaid dresses”. That should stop most comments. Good luck! 

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