Post # 1
Firstly me and my Boyfriend or Best Friend are not engaged but its on the cards (hopefully haha). The topic of marrige has come a lot around friends and family and often my female friends/ his sisters make comments about being bridesmaids when me and Boyfriend or Best Friend get married, such as “I hope you choose long bridesmaid dresses they look better on me”/”its only fair if you choose me as a bridesmaid when you get married” etc. They aren’t jokey/chatty enough that they are just passing comments and the same people have brought it up more than once!!
I guess I am just worried if I ignore them and we do get engaged people will have the wrong idea and there will be arguements and drama!
So should I address it or just ignore these comments?
Post # 3
I’d ignore it. You’re not even engaged yet, don’t worry about anything right now.
Post # 5
I figured that was my best option!
I just know I would never ever choose some of the people making these comments! I am just over worried about hurt feelings/unessary drama when (hopefully!) the time comes.
Thanks guys 🙂
Post # 6
I would ignore them or say something like, “We’re not even engaged yet, and I’m not picking my bridal party at this time.”
One of my best friends recently got engaged, and everyone knew she and her Fiance were going to get engaged. She made it very clear from the beginning that they don’t want a huge wedding party and that they weren’t making any promises to anyone until they actually started planning the wedding. Period.
Post # 7
Yep, I would just ignore it. You aren’t engaged yet, so what does it matter? Sometimes people talk just to talk and don’t realize how they might come off. Besides, when you do get engaged, you will be the one planning, not them!
Post # 8
@BirdyBe: I have the same problem! My BFs best friend started dating this girl about 8 months ago, we became close but she assumes shes in our wedding( im not even engaged yet) and she constantly asks my bf..” I need to know atleast 2 months before you ask her to marry you, so i can start working out..i want to be a really hot bridesmaid” UGH!
Post # 9
@FutureMrs.browneyes: the mean part of me wants to tell you to let her think she will be a bridesmaid..so that when she starts working out you can have a more accurate countdown : ) But people are weird about weddings…and often don’t take your feelings into account when they start planning stuff for you. I am not engaged, but when my friend was people she barely talked to, childhood friends and her DH’s family, were coming out of the woodwork to make suggestions (read: demands).
Post # 10
I just find it a little stressful stop planning my wedding I’m not engaged more like enraged!!!!
Post # 11
I would ignore it but I can understand your anxiety. I was just thinking if I was in this position, it’s a little awkward when someone says that to you!
Post # 12
@BirdyBe: Oh my! Drama beginning already! I would address it just as, “we’re not even engaged so I really haven’t thought about bridesmaids/bridesmaid dresses”. That should stop most comments. Good luck!