Post # 1
So I am a teacher, currently 5 weeks pregnant, during the last week of school I will be 10 weeks pregnant. Many of my co-workers who I’ve become close with are leaving after this school year is over. I also won’t see everyone together until much later in the summer. Should I announce my pregnancy to them at our end of the year luncheon when we are all together even though I will only be 10 weeks? What would you do?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t. I always err on the side of caution with early pregnancy.
Post # 4
That’s a tough one, my first instinct was to not tell… Because it’s the end of the school year and no one needs to know except your boss (if you’ll be needing maternity leave pretty early in the school year). But if you are just happy and want to share because you are friends with these people, then sure. If you won’t be seeing many of them again anyway it’s not that bad.
I think it’s a coin flip. Do you have any reason to believe there might be complications?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t. I’d send them all a “Happy Summer! I’m pregnant!” email when you hit 12 weeks and have told your boss.
Post # 6
That’s still pretty early. If you are close with many who aren’t returning, get their personal email addresses and such and share the news with them at a later date.
Post # 7
@wandering_gypsy: no reason to believe there would be complications. I’m hoping my mat leave would start when school resumes in January (EDD 12-25). So about mid school year.
Post # 8
Nope I wouldn’t say a word unless it is your direct supervisor.
Post # 9
Well, once you’ve successfully seen/heard baby’s heartbeat, the risk of anything bad drops incredibly low, so that the difference between 10 and 12 weeks is pretty much nothing. So if you want to tell your coworkers at 10, I think you’re fine — just maybe ask them to keep it to themselves for a couple more weeks until you make the full-on tell-the-world announcement! I told my boss at 9 weeks since I had so many doc appts all of a sudden, and just asked her to keep it to herself, and then told grandparents etc at 10, and the facebook world at 12. It all worked out fine for me.
Post # 10
It’s only 2 weeks from your second trimester and you won’t see these people for a long time, so I’d probably do it but tell them it’s still early and ask them not to announce it to the world.
Post # 11
I didn’t tell coworkers until 13 weeks. Same time we told everyone else. I just get really nervous about saying anything before the second trimester.
Post # 12
Im terrible at secrets .. so i would tell the people i consider close friends!
Best of luck & congrats 🙂
Post # 13
@iarebridezilla: +1. If you’re close to them, it would be much more fun to tell them in person. Just make sure you tell your boss first! Have fun and congrats!!!
Post # 14
I wouldn’t. Seems too early to me.
Post # 16
One of my co-workers just had her baby, and I’ve known multiple co-workers who miscarried, so this is from their collective experiences, not my personal one. I wouldn’t announce at this point, because it’s SO early. And I’ve seen those announcements turn sad very quickly.
If you’re insured through your employer, you do need to tell HR and your insurance company that you’re pregnant, and I would do so ASAP. Call HR first, they can give you the pregnancy packet that tells you who to call, what documentation you need and when you need to talk to them.