Should I apply for a new job or focus on IVF? Lawyer bee input appreciated

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Could you afford IVF out of pocket if you took this new position and you didn’t have insurance coverage? We’ve spent $40,000 with insurance coverage on three rounds and still haven’t conceived. I’d also consider which position will be the most flexible with hours. IVF requires a lot of doctors appointments and may require leaving work early, getting in late etc. given what you’ve said, I’d be inclined to stay put but it depends on your financial situation. 

Post # 3
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

My current job has IVF coverage and that’s a main reason I haven’t moved companies. For me, the cost savings of IVF plus accrued vacation time and flexible schedule was more important (right now) than a better job. switxhing jobs and then getting pregnant soon after can also present issues for maternity leave (you may not qualify until a certain point). Plus like PP said, would you have enough vacation/sick time for doctors appointments? Plus learning a new role while going through IVF/having a newborn sounded too stressful for me. I’m pregnant now and plan to switch companies after returning from maternity leave, once I have the hang of a newborn down. 

Post # 4
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

This is tricky because you have to renew every year. If you do IVF and get pregnant that means you’ll really need to stay for at least 1.5-2 years with maternity leave, etc. How likely is it you’ll renew your contract for two more years?

It sounds like switching jobs to the one that offers career advancement and waiting a year for IVF might make the most sense long term. Is your age a factor? 

Post # 5
4904 posts
Honey bee

Well, for starters, going for a job just means applying. It doesn’t mean that they’re even going to offer it to you. And it doesn’t mean that you even have to accept the job if they do offer it. So at this point you have nothing to lose. Then you can learn more about the company and the insurance packages and see if it’s a good fit for you if they happen to offer the job to you.

Right now you are getting ahead of yourself.

Post # 6
14096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you know for sure the new firm doesn’t also offer IVF coverage?

Post # 7
3189 posts
Sugar bee

Something else to consider is FMLA. You have to be with your employer for 12 months first (assuming they meet all of the other qualifications). So you’d just have to time getting pregnant right. 

Also, what does the pay scale look like? Typically JD only jobs pay less than attorney jobs. And would they pay for CLE’s to keep your license up or would that be out of pocket for you?

Honestly, I’d probably stay in the job you’re in until after you have the baby. Then consider looking around again.

Post # 8
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

With your current job, do you get time off for giving birth / maternity even though it is contract?  Do you get a pension even though its contract?  

Post # 9
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2016

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dizzybee130 :  Are you opposed to being a fed?  I know of several contractors who have been hired on as feds in the same office after working there for a while, not sure if yours would/could do the same.  I would totally go for the law librarian job too if you think that you’d enjoy it! 

Post # 10
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

That’s a really, really personal decision that ultimately comes down to what is your higher priority. You should do some different thought experiments and really tune into your emotions during them to figure out what you *really* want more.  Envision your life 5 years from now after a few different choices/alternatives. Does envisioning a life without children but a job that really gets you going feel good? Does it feel awful? What about the other way around – you have a kid but still in the same job. How does *that* feel? 

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would apply for the other job. If you get an offer, you’ll be able to review their IVF coverage and make the best decision with all of the facts.

Post # 12
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

I would go for the job! You don’t know what will happen in the future but it sounds like this new job would be perfect for you! And then you would have it to come back to after maternity leave.

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