(Closed) Should I ask for the money or let it go?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask for the $ or let it go?
    Ask : (16 votes)
    59 %
    Let it go : (11 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    It probably just slipped her mind– I would ask her the next time you see her. 

    Post # 5
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    One hand it’s only 70dollars, but budgets are tight planning a wedding so I understand if you need it back. I say send her a gentle reminder like hey cuz please remember the money for your dress and it would be great if it was in cash so I can use it pay tips day of or something like that.

    Post # 6
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Having unintentionally been ‘that guy’ before I would just ask her for it in whatever form of communication seems best.  I was just in a wedding and being from out of state ended up needing things that other people paid for in advance.  With everything else that was going on, I very well could have forgotten had they simply not asked me for the money.

    Post # 7
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I didn’t vote because it depends on the situation. 

    If your budget is tight and the Bridesmaid or Best Man knew in advance they were supposed to pay and they were okay with it, I will follow up.

    If your Bridesmaid or Best Man said she can’t afford paying you back…then I say let it go…but if she simply forgot, then she will pay back right away.


    Post # 9
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2005

    I don’t know how you are financially but $70 is WAY too much for me to be okay with brushing off.I mean like $10-$20 I could do, but  $70 is almost three weeks worth of gas for me!

    I have been in situations like this before I would simply remind them and it’s never a big deal.

     I’m so busy and such a scatter brain as it is I would welcome the reminder if I owed money lol.

    I wanted to add I agree with the person below my comment, if you can afford it without a problem I’d say let it go and don’t allow the friend to borrow money again.

    Post # 10
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for let it go, but generally speaking, Fiance and I usually opt to “let it go” and make sure there’s not a “next time”. To be honest, we are fairly comfortable so for us, $70 isn’t a huge hardship. (Not that we are in the habit of just throwing money away.) I would make sure this kind of thing doesn’t happen again. If $70 is a huge problem for you and a huge part of your budget, then I would say something.

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