Post # 1
Hey everyone, just wanted to get your opinion. I am having 3 bridesmaids, they basically only have to get a dress and show up because I am not having a bridal shower or bachlorette party. I was going to ask two friends and my sister. F1 is asking two friends and my brother. F1 has a sister who is 14 years older than me with three kids. She is very nice and I do like her a lot. I wasn’t going to ask her just because she is older with kids etc not really because I’m not close with her, although we Now I am thinking maybe it will seem rude beause our other siblings are all in the wedding. What do you all think?
Post # 2
I will be asking my Future Sister-In-Law to be a bridesmaid. She’s 10 years older than me and we aren’t very close either. However, I wouldn’t want her to feel left out and it’s a nice gesture even if she did say no. Also, since your Fiance is having your brother in the wedding, your Fiance might appreciate having his sister in the wedding too.
Post # 3
Your fiance having your brother does make it a little hard not to invite her to be in the wedding party I agree. If you do , be careful she does not expect you to have all the children too.
Post # 4
Im asking my Future Sister-In-Law to be a bridesmaid (she’s my SO brothers wife) Sometimes it’s just easier to ask to be nice
Post # 5
My sister will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and my brother will be a Groomsmen. My Fiance has one sister that I’m not super close with, but really love. I’m going to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because 1) I don’t have a ton of close girl friends and I see us becoming close over time (hopefully) and 2) Fiance was mostly asking my brother for the same reason. I don’t think it would be a major issue to NOT ask your Future Sister-In-Law, but it sure would be a nice gesture to invite her to be. <br /><br />I second PP’s suggestion about the children, though. If you’ve already decided not to include her children, be clear about that.
Post # 6
I’m having my Future Sister-In-Law as a bridesmaid. She’s a few years younger than me and we’re not super close, but close enough. My Fiance is also having my brother as one of his groomsmen. I think it’s nice to include family. If you think she would feel out of place, being 10 years older, maybe you could give her the option. If she decided against it, you can always include her in another part of the wedding such as a reader.
Post # 7
Yes, I asked mine. We aren’t incredibly close but we are family so I very much wanted to include her.
Post # 8
Ask your Fiance what he thinks. He knows her better, probably. You could involve her in another way, too. We had my SIL and my best friend perform our ceremony (my sis was my only BM).
Post # 9
I thought the whole point of having a bridal party is to ask people who you are close to and want standing up next to you on your big day.
Post # 10
you should ask her. esp since every other sibling is in the wedding. my BILs wife was upset i didnt ask her. so i had to have her in the wedding so she wasnt offended.
Post # 11
If you want your numbers to stay even, is there some other way you could include her? Doing a reading during the ceremony or something? I know for my parents wedding, my dad had a lot of close friends and cousins and Mom only wanted 4 bridesmaids, so a bunch of dad’s friends were included in other ways like readings, ushers and one was the official ‘getaway driver’ (aka the one with a convertible to drive them around town honking after the ceremony)