- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I need your help. I need advice from an outside party. I have been friends with this girl let’s call her Elizabeth since we were 12 years old and we are now 28 years old. After High School we lost touch a little. We would talk ever now and then but not that much. When we were about 23years old we became really close again. Best friends, calling each other every day and all that kind of stuff. I have been dating my fiancé for the past 7 years so ever since Elizabeth and I became friends again I have been with him. I don’t know why that’s important but I thought I would just say that. She meets a guy (who is now her husband) and they get married in a one year period. I thought it was fast but everyone is different. When she told me they were engaged I acted very happy. Yes acted, I do not like her husband but because I love her I have never told her. Anyways after they got engaged she called me up and told me they were going to get married and it was going to be a very small wedding and she didn’t want any Bridesmaid or Best Man. Yes I was sad. I had never been in a Wedding and I felt like we had just been through so much together. She then started to tell me how only her mom, dad, brother and grandparents were going to be invited. NO ONE ELSE! I was so surprised and proceeded to cry for the next week thinking how I was going to miss it. I took it VERY personal even though I knew including the groom’s side there was only going to be 11 people there. I was the Boyfriend or Best Friend, I felt like I had a right! I tried to get over it all and we still talked after that but everything changed. Things were never the same. We were calling each other less and less and until it stopped all together.
In July 2010 I go on facebook and I found out SHE HAD BABY! That opened up all my old emotions about the Wedding and even though we had not talked in the past 7 or 8 months before that I was hurt. To make a long story short I ended up e-mailing her and now we talk a few times a week and have even hung out a couple of times. She is in CT and Im in Mass. I feel like now that we are friends again I might want to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I think I might be a little crazy. Every Wedding thing that goes on people always say “I can’t believe Elizabeth is not here”. They don’t say it to be hurtful though. I am not sure if I would look back and wish I had asked her or happy that I didn’t???? Please tell me what you all think?