(Closed) Should I ask her to NOT throw me a shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How should I handle the shower?
    Rename the shower "home town reception" or "cake and punch reception" : (26 votes)
    65 %
    Politely ask her not to host it : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Go ahead and have a shower : (10 votes)
    25 %
    Ask for a bachelorette party instead! : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    How about instead of calling it a shower, you call it a cake and punch reception?  It’s very normal to have a home town reception after the fact.

    Post # 4
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    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Please, don’t feel guilty! Just enjoy the fact that people love and care about you and want to show their support of your marriage!

    Post # 5
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    If you are having a “reception” in Canada for those that you didn’t invite to the NY ceremony, then I think having a shower would be fine. I find it comparable to a destination wedding and at home reception. Every bride I know with a Destination Wedding has had a shower.

    Post # 7
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    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with WillyNilly… it’s inappropriate to call it a shower after the fact… so call it a home town reception!

    Post # 9
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    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Go for it! 

    Post # 11
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Then call it a bachelorette!! People frequently have house parties before bachelorettes (and recieve presents).

    Post # 12
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    A shower is a pre-wedding event. It’s not something you have after the wedding, especially since you are already legally married. Having multiple receptions afterward does not change that fact. It’s rude to tell anyone they cannot host a party for you, and you don’t get to decide the name of it. Also, since you are married, you are no longer a bachelorette.

    Post # 14
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    If she wants to throw one for you, that is for her to decide, not you. She really should not be asking you to make the decision and be in complete control of, and you need to let her know that if she doesn’t already. If you want the party just because, then go for it but don’t call it a shower or bachelorette since it is neither.

    Post # 16
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    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    my feel is…

    if the party guests don’t mind it being a shower…I say go for it! 🙂  Enjoy it!

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