- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2011
Ok so here’s the deal. My fiance and I had orginally planned to wed Aug 1st 09, but postponed about 4months before the wedding. So of course we had already chosen our bridal party. One bridesmaid I’d chosen gave me a hard time and tried MULTIPLE times to get out of buying the dress I wanted. When push came to shove and I told her that if she didn’t order that dress she wouldn’t be in the wedding, she finally did. (however we cancelled that order because well we postponed). We picked our new date (1-1-11) and I asked her if she was still intreseted in being one of my maids. I didn’t realize it until she said yes that I was subconciously praying for a no. Plus her mom will probably wind up coming to the wedding (especially if she’s in it, regardless if she gets an invitation) and her mother is absolutely the most annoying and intrusive person I have ever met in my life. I secretly want to ask her to not be a bridesmaid and instead to be a … well anything else. We just don’t talk as much as we did and I really just don’t feel the same about her as I once did. To top it all off my fiance is encouraging me to do just that because he really doesn’t like her (because she doesn’t like FI)… and he had a say in my bridesmaids BEFORE I asked. Now he says that he wishes I wouldn’t have asked this girl-which makes me mad at him for not speaking up when I was choosing my bridal party. My Maid/Matron of Honor tells me to do it or just “forget” to mention it to her again (gotta love my bestie) because it’s my wedding and I need to stop worrying about stepping on people’s toes. And honestly thinking over the things this girl has done about the dress, not supporting our engagement (I got engaged at 18/Fi was 22), saying that when Fiance and I got together 4yrs ago that all he wanted was sex as he’s 4yrs older then me (not true…obviously), saying blatently many times that she gets bad vibes from him or just flat out doesn’t like him, and not offering support towards the reasons why we postponed (had to do with my family-very rough time for me), etc well I just don’t know why in hell I asked this girl to be in my wedding. What should I do??? And IF I ask her to step down as Bridesmaid or Best Man how to do it tastefully and what can I ask her to do?