- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I have a girl I’m considering asking to be in the wedding party. Most of my close friends have scattered across the country, but I do have 2 bridesmaids locally to help with things. I would love another. Our wedding party is going to be 8 on each side; I wanted it to be smaller but Fiance is a popular dude, with a huge friend group from back home, plus there’s lots of guy family members.
So I have officially asked 5 so far; 2 local, my sister back home (MOH but 6 hours driving), BFF from HS (8 hours away diriving), and his sister (3 hours driving). I have an idea of who I want to ask for remaining spots: 1 girl in Hawaii (one of FIs very best friends, and he’s having one of my best friends as one of his dudes), and 1 mutual friend (4 hours driving).
I could fill up the other space with ANOTHER girl whose also 4 hours driving, or ask this other local girl. She was FI’s friend first, but she just moved here in the fall and has been really nice and sweet to me.
1) Another local girl.
2) She’s VERY artistic and can be really helpful since so many aspects of the wedding are DIY.
3) She has volunteered to help with making some things even though I haven’t even hinted to her that I was considering asking her. (Making paper flowers).
4) She’s a bit quirky, but nice overall.
5) She just moved around the corner; literally a 5 minute walk.
1) Even though she’s offered to help, she blew me off twice last weekend.
2) She did go on another trip with me, but still hasn’t followed through with actually helping me with the thing she said she wanted to help with (making paper flowers).
3) She known to be a bit flakey. Which is why I take point #1 more seriously.
4) When I talked to her this weekend she revealed to me that she may or may not stay local, she may move back even as soon as this fall.
So, I guess my question is… should I ask her? Would it to be wierd to tell her that I want to ask her, as long as she plans to stay since I will need help? Does the flakiness cancel all of this out? I mean if I ask the other girl 4 hours away, even though shes’s great it’s probably not doing me any favors anyway…
Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance bees!