- Soon To Bee
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I found a ring that I love some time in June. So, because I’m awful at keeping my mouth shut, I told him. He was interested. I showed pictures, explained why I loved it so much, and told him about the shopping experience I had in this particular store. I asked if he would come see it with me one day, and he said yes. We moved on from the conversation and I’ve been an emotional roller coaster since, but that’s another story!
About a week after, we had a conversation about rings. I am very much against buying a conflict diamond, so he asked if I would prefer a brand new diamond that is guaranteed conflict-free, or would I prefer to have a unique, potentially antique ring (in which case the purchase would not be supporting the diamond industry directly). I told him it didn’t much matter as long as his money did not go towards the suffering of others.
About a month ago he had lunch with his mom and they had a heart-to-heart about him and I. He told me a little about it, but not much.
The week after talking to his mother, I found a beautiful 1937 ring from an estate sale. Again, he asked the diamond question. This time I took a stance and said I loved the one I found before, and it would be nice to have my very own ring. He disagreed and said an antique would be much more unique.
Then, I took my friend out to show her the ring I love. The saleswoman sold it just as I was standing there. I came home and told him what happened. His response? “Uh oh.” No emotion, no big deal.
Fast forward to a few days ago. He said he would propose within one year. So of course I called my mom and told her this whole story. She thinks he got an heirloom ring from his mother the day he saw her. In addition, my friend is convinced that he has one already. I refuse to snoop.
So my question is: he said he would come see the ring I fell in love with. Should I take him up on that? I’m worried if I go on too much about this one, and he already has one, it might hurt his feelings. But I can’t prove he has one either. HELP!