Post # 1
Help! My soon-to-be hubby and I purchased our identical bands BEFORE he got my engagement ring. They are both 5mm satin finish flat comfort-fit 18K yellow gold rings by Carla Caruso. I LOVE the idea of having the same, “gold is forever and I’m very, very married”. These are just the ticket, and it helps that he loves them too.
BUT: I had told him I didn’t want a big e-ring, just a “little sparkly” cause I’m a girl 😉 so we got me a very thin (about 2mm I think) ring set with starbust-engraved diamonds. I adore that one too. I was going to wear it as an e-ring with the band…
THEN: a week later, he decided we wanted to get me a traditional ring, even if I wasn’t really that into the idea (ok, I was a little into the idea!!!) Wonderful man that he is, he got me a 1.5 carat emerald-cut G color IF diamond in a classic setting (mid-high) with .5 carats of side french-cut baguettes on a 2mm band. SO much more than I was expecting!!!
So… now I have three rings.
I plan to wear the big 5mm band on my left hand to match his, and the other two on the right.
HOWEVER: I want to be able to stack all three if I want to, and I’m a little scared to tell him that I wish we had gotten 3 mm matching bands. My big band looks a little silly with my e-ring, and all three together are just too much for my poor little finger.
Should I exchange? Or just wear what I’ve got?
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Post # 3
@Neuetimbrekind: That 5mm is crazy big for your finger. I would definitely match your w-band width to your e-ring width.
Post # 4
Many couples that have matching bands have the same looking bands but not the same width. For example, my sister and her husband have matching bands but hers is around 3 mm and his is more like 6 or 7. They don’t have to be “identical” because womens rings are generally thinner because they have smaller fingers.
I like the 5 mm band by itself but not stacking. If you’re really into having them identical then just wear it on the days when wearing your diamond e-ring isn’t appropriate (like going to the gym or working in the yard).
I personally would exchange it for the 3 mm version. I think in the long run you will find it much more comfortable.
Post # 5
I would see if you are able to exchange them. I agree with a prior poster that a band that is smaller in width would be better.
Post # 6
@Neuetimbrekind: I think if you had a narrower wedding band it would still match very well to your husbands. I prefer thinner bands (like your other wedding band) anyway, but I do think that 5mm is pretty big for your finger.
Also I love your engagement ring.
Post # 7
Agree with pp. Go ahead and exchange it for the 3 mm. Its still matching!! Here is my 3 mm if it helps you picture it. Gorgeous rings btw!
Post # 8
@ButterflyButterfly: +1 You can get a thinner band for yourself that matches your FI’s band without being the same width. Lots of couples do that! I agree that the 5mm width is WAY too big for your little finger, even if you weren’t wearing the other sparkly band.
Post # 9
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I’d just wear the band whenever you don’t wear your other rings! But I like wide bands though, but yeah def not all three together.
Post # 10
I had a 4mm ering and took it back and had it cut down to 3mm and am very happy with the end result. I think the narrower band would look a little more symmetrical. I think if you both got the same style and different sizes it would work just fine.
Post # 11
@Neuetimbrekind: I don’t think he should exchange his unless he wants to, but I definitely would exchange mine if I were you.
Post # 12
I have a 5mm band but DH has a 10mm band – I chose 5mm so the width of my e-ring, band and future eternity band will eventually be appox 10mm on my finger but I’m weird about numbers like that and 10 is my favorite number so it works for me 🙂 But it also works on my finger with my e-ring and doesn’t look as big on mine as it seems to on yours so I’d say exchange it though I love wider bands so I like the look on your finger 🙂
Post # 13
I like the ering with the thinner band, and I like the 5mm band on its own. I don’t really like the look of the stack or the wide band with anything else, the proportions are just too different to me.
Post # 14
@Neuetimbrekind: First off I must say I’m typically not a big fan of step cuts but your ring is GORGEOUS!!!
as for the rings individually I LOVE both bands. That satin finish thick band is delish!! Wow
But I do agree that all three rings are too much and the band is a bit much with your gorgeous new ring. Like others have said I think getting yours in the 3mm and leaving your SO’s at 5mm is a great choice and compromise.
Post # 14
I love wide bands, but yours really looks too wide when worn with your other rings. I inherited a wide band that I tried wearing on my right hand. Unfortunately I cannot wear it because it is very uncomfortable.
You have beautiful rings – all 3 are gorgeous, but I would trade in the wide band for a thinner one.
Post # 15
Neuetimbrekind: ALL of your rings are gorgeous!! Can you wear the starburst diamond band as a wedding band with your emerald cut ring and just wear the 5mm band alone when you don’t feel like wearing the whole set? I love the starburst band with your emerald cut ering, and I love the 5mm band by itself, but you’re right it’s totally overwhelming to wear with either (or both!) of your other rings.