Should I ask if we can exchange our (not yet worn) plain bands? (5mm to 3mm)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3101 posts
Sugar bee

@Neuetimbrekind:  That 5mm is crazy big for your finger.  I would definitely match your w-band width to your e-ring width.

Post # 4
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Many couples that have matching bands have the same looking bands but not the same width.  For example, my sister and her husband have matching bands but hers is around 3 mm and his is more like 6 or 7.  They don’t have to be “identical” because womens rings are generally thinner because they have smaller fingers.

I like the 5 mm band by itself but not stacking.  If you’re really into having them identical then just wear it on the days when wearing your diamond e-ring isn’t appropriate (like going to the gym or working in the yard).

I personally would exchange it for the 3 mm version.  I think in the long run you will find it much more comfortable.

Post # 5
11274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would see if you are able to exchange them.  I agree with a prior poster that a band that is smaller in width would be better.

Post # 6
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Neuetimbrekind:  I think if you had a narrower wedding band it would still match very well to your husbands. I prefer thinner bands (like your other wedding band) anyway, but I do think that 5mm is pretty big for your finger. 

Also I love your engagement ring. 

Post # 7
5504 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Agree with pp. Go ahead and exchange it for the 3 mm. Its still matching!! Here is my 3 mm if it helps you picture it. Gorgeous rings btw!

Post # 8
2822 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@ButterflyButterfly:  +1 You can get a thinner band for yourself that matches your FI’s band without being the same width. Lots of couples do that! I agree that the 5mm width is WAY too big for your little finger, even if you weren’t wearing the other sparkly band.

Post # 9
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I’d just wear the band whenever you don’t wear your other rings! But I like wide bands though, but yeah def not all three together. 

Post # 10
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I had a 4mm ering and took it back and had it cut down to 3mm and am very happy with the end result.  I think the narrower band would look a little more symmetrical.  I think if you both got the same style and different sizes it would work just fine.

Post # 11
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Neuetimbrekind:  I don’t think he should exchange his unless he wants to, but I definitely would exchange mine if I were you. 

Post # 12
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a 5mm band but DH has a 10mm band – I chose 5mm so the width of my e-ring, band and future eternity band will eventually be appox 10mm on my finger but I’m weird about numbers like that and 10 is my favorite number so it works for me 🙂  But it also works on my finger with my e-ring and doesn’t look as big on mine as it seems to on yours so I’d say exchange it though I love wider bands so I like the look on your finger 🙂

Post # 13
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I like the ering with the thinner band, and I like the 5mm band on its own.  I don’t really like the look of the stack or the wide band with anything else, the proportions are just too different to me.  

Post # 14
3228 posts
Sugar bee

@Neuetimbrekind:  First off I must say I’m typically not a big fan of step cuts but your ring is GORGEOUS!!!

as for the rings individually I LOVE both bands. That satin finish thick band is delish!! Wow

But I do agree that all three rings are too much and the band is a bit much with your gorgeous new ring. Like others have said I think getting yours in the 3mm and leaving your SO’s at 5mm is a great choice and compromise. 

Post # 14
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I love wide bands, but yours really looks too wide when worn with your other rings. I inherited a wide band that I tried wearing on my right hand. Unfortunately I cannot wear it because it is very uncomfortable.

You have beautiful rings – all 3 are gorgeous, but I would trade in the wide band for a thinner one.

Post # 15
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Neuetimbrekind:  ALL of your rings are gorgeous!! Can you wear the starburst diamond band as a wedding band with your emerald cut ring and just wear the 5mm band alone when you don’t feel like wearing the whole set? I love the starburst band with your emerald cut ering, and I love the 5mm band by itself, but you’re right it’s totally overwhelming to wear with either (or both!) of your other rings.

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