(Closed) Should I ask my fiance’s sister to be a bridesmaid?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: So, what should I do?
    not include fiance's sister in our wedding party : (17 votes)
    52 %
    have fiance's sister stand on my side, and have an uneven number of people in our wedding party : (6 votes)
    18 %
    have fiance's sister stand on his side (wear bridesmaid dress) and ask a close cousin on my side : (8 votes)
    24 %
    other (please elaborate) : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Why don’t you ask her if she’d be interested in being a bridesmaid? She may not even want to, and would just be happy to attend as a guest.

    Post # 4
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    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If you aren’t otherwise close with her, I wouldn’t ask her. That is just my opinion though. I love my fiance’s sister- we hang out occasionally but I didn’t ask her to be in the wedding just because she is family. I only asked my long-time friends.  That is just me though. I think you should do whatever works for you. If you are very close friends with her (outside of her sister relationship) it would only make sense to ask her if her husband is also in the wedding party!

    Post # 5
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Similar situaton, only reversed (my brother wed, me not included). The Mr. is having my brother on his side – we decided it was important to us, even if my bro/SIL chose differently for their wedding.

    When Mr. asked my brother, it was so sweet – my brother was so honored. We were going to have uneven sides, but then had a bridal-party-drop-out, and now we’re all symmetrical again.

    If it is important to you (not just because you’d feel awkward if you didn’t!), go ahead and follow the advice of the PP – just ask her, and see how she feels about it. She could say no!

    If you don’t truly want her in the wedding party, I would hope she’d be pretty understanding, since she excluded your Fiance from hers. =/

    Post # 7
    Member
    43 posts
    Newbee

    Does your husband have a preference?

    I think you should definitely at least extend the offer to her. I would be incredibly hurt to be left out of my brother’s wedding, no matter how close/not close I was to the bride. Including her as a groomswoman would be fine, but I don’t see why you couldn’t include both your cousin and your FI’s sister as bridesmaids if you wanted. Uneven wedding parties are having a moment right now! 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    43 posts
    Newbee

    Does your husband have a preference?

    I think you should definitely at least extend the offer to her. I would be incredibly hurt to be left out of my brother’s wedding, no matter how close/not close I was to the bride. Including her as a groomswoman would be fine, but I don’t see why you couldn’t include both your cousin and your FI’s sister as bridesmaids if you wanted. Uneven wedding parties are having a moment right now! 🙂

    Post # 8
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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Uneven wedding parties are having a moment right now! 🙂

    LOL, so true!

    I’d bring it up, and ask if she’d like to stand on his side.

    Post # 9
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I asked Fi’s sister to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because I had asked my sister and I wanted to show Fi that his sister will end up being my sister anyway. We’ve never been close because she was away at University when Fi and I got together, but she agreed.

    Long story short, if she doesnt start cooperating, she may be cut.

    So my advice to you, make sure she’s bridemaid material – if shes not, dont give yourself extra stress

    Post # 10
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @YoungMrsUng:I did the same.  Both my sister’s are standing up and I was going to ask one of FI’s sisters because we are close,not BFF but close enough!  Youngest sister is a stick in the mud but we asked her so WWIII wouldn’t break out.  She just told Fiance she can’t drive out for Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping.  Other sis with kids!! is driving 6 hours to be here!!  I would ask her b/c her husband is involved.  Just don’t expect any help from her.

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