Post # 1
So I’ve had 10 ppl drop out today my bridesmaid told me she is out of the wedding and not coming to Mexico for our destination wedding due to money but on fb she says she has tickets to some how five months away should I confront her about it?
i am down to one bbridesmaids just got done crying twice already
Post # 3
@imnotarunner7: Let it go. You can’t tell or question other adults about what’s going on in their wallets.
When you have a destination wedding, that’s one of the risks you run. Don’t lose focus on what’s important.
Post # 4
@imnotarunner7: Sorry this happened. 🙁 You have had 10 BMs drop out and are down to 1?
I would *not* ask her about the tickets. Maybe she won them, maybe they were a gift, or yeah, maybe she spent her own money on them… it’s up to her to decide how she wants to spend her money. It sucks that she won’t be there for you on your wedding, but that’s her choice. Nothing you say about the show tickets will help.
Post # 5
No. Do not ask her about it. Its not your business how she chooses to spend her money. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man and myself used to be friends with a woman who lived in another state. Everytime we didnt go there for her birthday (and my Bridesmaid or Best Man dropped out of this womans Destination Wedding bc of money as well), she would always question how we could afford such & such that we talked about on FB. It was extremely frustrating and neither one of us are friends with her now. Its a risk you take when having a Destination Wedding. If you want to have any sort of relationship with her in the future, just let it go & enjoy your wedding day.
Post # 6
Even if you did confront her about it, what’s the likelihood she would answer honestly if it hurts you? In this situation, I firmly believe it’s best to let it go….asking would only put a possible strain on the relationship.
Destination Wedding are tough– its a tradeoff when you think that this is what you wanted but not everyone is able to attend along with you. Try to focus on the most important thing– you are getting married!!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
It is really not any of your business what she does with her money, unfortunately. That is the risk you run when having a destination wedding =(. Just try to move past it and remember that the only people you need are yoursel, your FH, and someone to marry you.
Post # 8
This is why I would never have a destination wedding. Not because I would be afraid of people dropping out, but because I would never, ever ask anyone to spend that kind of money on something I planned. People feel obligated to say yes because, you know, it’s your wedding, but they often don’t want to go or renege because they can’t go.
Post # 9
Let it go. She probably really dosn’t have the money and having to explain that again would probably be even more humiliating.
Post # 10
Let it go… She’ll just upset you more.
Post # 11
Destination weddings are expensive. She may have wanted to go to another vacation previously planned and doesn’t have the money to go to both places. I would let it go.
Post # 12
@imnotarunner7: i would not ask her caz its not going to change her mind. to be honest i personally could not afford to attend a destination wedding and be in the bridal party ; ( we just dont have money like that unless it was at income tax time ; ) if you ask her it will only make her feel worst then she already feels.
Post # 13
Trust me, you don’t want to know the answer to this question. It’s only going to hurt your feelings and make things between you and your friend worse.
Post # 14
As PP said, this is the risk you have when you plan a destination wedding.
Post # 15
What do you mean by “she has tickets to some how” I am confused.
Post # 16
I’m sorry you’re going through this. 1 bridesmaid is the perfect number though, imho. Could be worse! Still a bummer though…