(Closed) Should I ask the BM’s to send me a check? Feeling awkard about this…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am in a similar situation and how I handled it was I just sent out a text to all my BM’s (we always communicate via text so that wasnt a cop out, just a FYI) and let them know I found their dresses and gave them the price and let them know it would be cheaper on them if they just let me order them because I could order then all at once which would decrease their shipping cost and then set a date that I was going to order them by. All seemed perfectly ok with it (my cousin and my sister gave me than money that day), I also let them know that this way all the dresses would be created from the same dye lot so everyone would match.

Post # 4
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I ordered from Netbride and did the exact same thing as above (will definitely post good/bad when they show up).  They were nearly $100 cheaper with Netbride, so I just asked the girls if they would mind if I ordered them all together, so we would only have to pay the $35.00 shipping once and they could pay me their share.

I think if you frame it as cost savings to them, and a detail they don’t have to handle, it’s not awkward at all.

Post # 6
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am doing the same thing.  Since I ordered my dress from david’s bridal– i received a coupon for $20 off each dress up to six dresses.. but only one code so I can only use it once– so i’m ordering all their dresses and they are just going to pay me back.  I sent them e-mails– also how we tend to communicate– and they were all happy to be saving the money. 

Post # 7
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1565 posts
Bumble bee

I did this for a few of my BMs and it wasn’t awkward at all. I asked them to give me the size before ordering and they all sent me checks promptly.

Post # 8
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, we were originally really going to buy them from the bridal store where I bought my wedding dress, so everybody got measured at the store, and the girls saw what they had measured. 

But, it’s really not that difficult to take measurements.  Have them get a friend to take a bust/waist/hip measurement, or go to a seamstress and they’ll do it for a fee if you’re not getting any other service.

Then in theory you should buy them the size that fits their largest measurement.

 

Post # 9
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1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

2 of my 6 girls have been dragging their feet to get measured and order their dresses (my 2 MOHs already RECEIVED their dresses 2 months ago!!), so I finally demanded their measurements and ordered them myself.  I just sent an email this morning with the conf details and asking for their checks.  They have until the end of next week until I get nasty.  They’ve have since NOVEMBER to do this!!

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