- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2017
Hello I’m new! I hope I didn’t miss an intro thread somewhere, and if so, apologies
I’m having a bit of a dilemma in regards to choosing my Maid/Matron of Honor. Basically, it was always going to be my best friend. However in the past year she’s been really different. I had a health issue last year and she basically ignored me the entire time, put down what I was facing as ‘silly’ and eventually told me she’d in fact felt upset because I hadn’t spent enough time with her (sorry?)
Anyway we moved past that, fast forward to me getting engaged a few weeks ago: I told her, super excited because I’d waited for this for a long time, and one of the first things she said was ‘oh no, I was hoping there wouldn’t be ANOTHER wedding so soon’ (two of her friends recently got married and she was the Maid/Matron of Honor for both of them). She also made a big show and tell about how her best friend recently got married when I had some girls over, which was very awkward. I jokingly pointed it out and she said ‘well you’re my best friend for life, but the other two girls are my best friends too, get over it.’ Which is fine, I guess, I have other close friends too.. it’s just that she and I used to always only call each other ‘best friend’, but ok.
Yesterday we’d planned to go and see my first ever wedding fair together, which I was really excited about. I’ve prepared little gift bags for the girls I’m going to ask to be my bridesmaids, and I took particular care with hers, getting her a little trinket box with an inside joke of ours written on it (it’s really cute!), a nail varnish she’d love, perfume, a miniature bottle of whisky and a lovely little card with a photo of us printed on it. I was going to take her to Starbucks (which she loves) and write ‘Maid of Honour?’ on her cup.
…only she never turned up. She’d apparently gotten the date wrong and thought the fair was tomorrow. So I spent my first ever wedding fair alone, too upset to cry. The attendants at the fair actually paired me with a girl who works there so I didn’t look quite so lame. She was great, but it was nevertheless a little.. humiliating?
So, sorry for the length of this, but I wondered what I should do? I’m having a Chief Bridesmaid as well (which this girl doesn’t know about yet) because one of my other friends is better at planning. But that main ‘honour’ was meant to go to her, and now I don’t know whether that’ll just wind up disappointing me. Should I just make her a bridesmaid? Ask my fiance’s sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor instead, perhaps? Am I totally overreacting?
Any advice would be super appreciated. Congrats to all you other brides as well! x