(Closed) Should I ask this guy out?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Rush how? Meeting up? 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

If you are interested in going out with him and getting to know him more, ask him out for drinks or coffee.  That way, you’ll know if you want to pursue anything more beyond online chatting.  Good luck!  🙂

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

footprints:  

 

edit: sorry just saw your update. 

DEFINITLEY weird that he said that. RED FLAG!!!!! Why is there no rush? Sounds shady, as if he wants to build a relationship first to manipulate you or something similar. 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  RosaBride.
  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  RosaBride.
Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Hmm, that’s a funny thing to say, I’m not sure it has to be a red flag though. Maybe he’s worried that you want to hook up or something, whereas he doesn’t do that right away. Who knows. I’d go for coffee with no expectations (just make sure you’re in a public place and somebody knows where you are etc etc, safety first!). If you get sparks – great! If not, you can still be friends and you won’t have gotten too invested in him. Just treat it as coffee with a friend and see. Even if nothing comes of it, it will be good to know that he is (hopefully) who he says he is and all. let us know!

Edit to add: if he keeps refusing to meet that’s when I would get worried – either he would definitely not be interested in anything or he’d be hiding something. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

OP, I’m glad he said yes! But the “we don’t have to rush” comment struck me as odd, too. I strongly advise you not to spend much more time chatting with him online until you meet. The potential for manipulation is high, as it seems you are already a bit invested. He could be the type who has lots of online ‘relationships’ and flirtations. I hope it all works out, but do keep your wits about you! And be very wary if he postpones meeting up and prefers to take up your time with online chats. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

footprints:  He is dropping you hints but seems like he may be a bit shy, get on it and ask if to meet you for a drink. If you don’t ask, you don’t get. x

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

footprints:  Whoops, sorry, just seen your update! YAY!

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Good luck! It actually sounds like he is a bit shy to me. Often people who are successful are.

PLEASE keep us updated!

 

Post # 28
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Helper bee

mangosandcats:  Just to add… yes, I agree to be wary if he postpones/delays meeting in real life. But good luck!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

visorgirl:  Agree with you too, he may just be shy. I totally feel like the overprotective mom of this thread. I wish OP the best, but please no big crushes until you actually meet the guy!

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