Post # 1
I suffer from Hyperhidrosis, which means I sweat profusely. My sweating is excessive all over – bad in my groin and chest but even worse on my head, face and neck. I can sweat a thick layer while sitting still in an air conditioned room. If wiped away with a towel, the sweat just reappears in a second. When I try to explain this to people I my life, I’m often told “everyone sweats!”, but when people actually see me reacting to heat, they’re amazed. Medication helps but can’t complete with Summer heat.
Unfortunately, I have let the condition turn me a bit of a hermit and I never attended my own proms or graduations, and generally avoid outdoor events like the plague.
I will be invited to a wedding that is to be held in July, ceremony outside. I plan to use every trick in my book to try to beat the heat, but am still worried. I know it is unlikely that I’ll be the only one there sweating a lot, but I don’t just sweat, I RAIN. Sometimes, it’s becomes a bit of a spectacle and people can’t stop staring. On top of it being embarrassing and uncomfortable, I’m very nervous that ill actually be dripping onto people (I’m a fairly petite woman, but I leave puddles in chairs if I don’t put a towel down), being an eye sore in what could be lovely photos, and potentially stressing out the bride.
Under any circumstances is it ok to skip a ceremony and only attend the reception? RSVPing no is not an option for this event, but I am not very close to the bride and groom.
Brides, if a guest brought this issue up with you, how would you feel? Annoyed? Understanding?
Thank you. Any advice would help.
Post # 2
schuyler : July 2019? It sounds like you have a year to visit a few doctors and try some additional remedies.
I encourage you to go, but not at the expense of any anxiety or insecurity. You want to enjoy yourself 🙂
Post # 3
I would be very understanding, especially if I was aware of your condition. That being said, you said you’ve tried medication but have you tried other preventative meaures? My husband has the same condition as you, but it was only under his arms. He would also sweat through his shirt even in the coldest room. He had a laser treatment done several years ago, and now he can get by with even forgetting to wear deoderant. I have also heard that botox is an option. I know your situation is more severe because it isn’t isolated to one area of your body, and these treatments can be expensive, but I would at least look into it.
Post # 4
I have a mild case of Hyperhidrosis. I sweat more than most people, but less than other people with Hyperhidrosis. The medications have worked for me, but I had to go off of them after finding out I have an autoimmune disorder that causes blood clots.
That being said. I am sorry and I feel for you.
As a bride, if this was something I was not super close too, I would find it a bit odd that it was brought up to me, mostly because it is a very personal medical condition. I would not care if you sweated rivers in photos, it is not like you are doing it on purpose. Clearly I would have invited you for a reason.
I personally think it is fine to skip the ceremony and attend the reception, just be very clear with the bride and groom when you RSVP that this is the case.
Post # 5
schuyler : I’m sorry you have to deal with this condition. My friends mum has it and she got botox which helped a lot.
I would never expect a friend not to come to the ceremony because they may look sweaty in my photos, however if YOU will be uncomfortable then I would completely understand and look forward to seeing you at the reception.
Post # 6
schuyler : I don’t think anyone will mind you not witnessing the ceremony. If you sweat profusely during the ceremony then it sounds like you would be uncomfortable the rest of the night. As kind hosts, I’m sure they’d rather you be comfortable the entire evening.
Post # 7
How frustrating for you. Maybe go and sit in the back row? Bring a change of clothes for the ceremony? Personally, I wouldn’t have minded if a guest skipped the ceremony due to personal or medical reasons, but I’d have hated to see anyone be left out for fear of embarrasement. It feels really unfair.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t go if it’s goong to miserable, just explain you have a medical condition that makes heat dangerous.
just in case you’re not aware, I’ve had to work outdoor events in extreme heat and I used those cooling cloths to keep myself sane when I was on a migraine pill that warned not to get hot because it prohibited sweating, which made it dangerous to get hot.
they last for hours, you can put them in your bra, on your head inside a hat, around your neck.
And then there’s sweat activated cooling activewear, which isn’t right for a wedding but might be helpful in general.
good luck bee!
Post # 9
Why mention it? Unless the ceremony is only 20 people or you’re in it ( in which case just go), I doubt they’d even notice if you just came to the ceremony…
Post # 10
Thank you all so much for sharing your opinion and suggestions. I hadn’t realized that anyone responded to my post until now.
I’ve noticed that many other Bees post about sweating heavy from one place or another, even a few like me who will have sweat stinging their eyes or who will have their makeup melt right off their face.
I will always been on the lookout for new treatments. The internal drug rubinol seems to help, but only for interviews or another event in a temperature controlled room. I am waiting a few more years to consult with a doctor about ETS surgery because results still vary drastically.
I guess I just gotta remember that everyone will be hella happy for the couple and not focused on my sweaty ass 😅
Post # 11
it is very understandable for me if i were the host and one of my guest brought the topic up about his/her condition. i personally won’t force them to come to my ceremony after knowing about it. as a host, i would want my guest to come and feel comfortable most of the time rather than having them coming but have to deal with their whatever condition that makes them feel uncomfortable.