(Closed) Should I attend funeral of bridesmaid’s stepfather that I never met.

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

No, I don’t think it would be awkward at all. It would show support of her. I would go if I were you.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, If it were me making the decision I’d go.  I have been to funerals and memorials for people I’ve never met as a show of support.  It is awkward, but people appreciate the gesture.  I have been on the other side and it always means a lot to have people show that they care, even though its really hard to let some people see you grieve.  But still, I say go!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

not awkward at all.  you care about her, and would be there supporting her.  it’s a totally appropriate and kind thing to do. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

I would probably go as well to show support for her and her family. If you don’t feel completely comfortable going to the funeral, is there a visitation that you could stop by? That’s another option for letting the family know that you are thinking about them.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

you should go. nobody will think it is strange that you’ve never met your friend’s stepfather. The main thing is that you want to support her, so it is totally appropriate for you to attend.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you don’t have a problem with funerals (I do – I refuse) then I’m sure your friend would appreciate the support.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

I would definitly go.  It’s a lovely way to show your Bridesmaid that you are there for her in this difficult time.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

You should absolutely go.  It is about showing support to your friend. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Definitely go.  As a person who has been through emotional funerals myself, seeing someone I didn’t necessarily expect to be there, but knew they came to show their support for me in my time of grief was wonderful.  Being there for your Bridesmaid or Best Man is important, because she will be there for you on your important day.  It may feel awkward but just give her a hug and let her know that you are always there if she needs to talk can be just the thing she needs to hear.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

@kittyachi, may I ask why you refuse to go to funerals?  Is it because you find them difficult emotionally, or some other reason.  Hope I’m not asking anything too personal. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I dont think it would be awkward, it would be great support to her if you went and you are able to.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You don’t have to know the person who passed

Yes…if someone you are close to, has a family member pass, you attend the service. You go to support your friend

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

You never forget who came to your wedding, and who came to your parent’s funeral…  if you don’t mind going, I’m sure it would be appreciated.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@RIbride – I do find them emotionally difficult, but that’s obviously not uncommon. I get bad anxiety attacks when confronted with death like that (stems from childhood experiences) so unless it is an immediate family member, I don’t go. I do make sure to show my support for those grieving in other ways, though.

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