(Closed) should i attend this wedding

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should i attend?

    Yes and make your husband come, too

    Yes but go alone


  • Post # 3
    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I dont think you should skip it completely, I wouldnt make your DH go though.

    Its not your wedding, you know there will not be much food, and this time you are not in the wedding party.  I would go, and try to make the best of it, because wether you go or not the other guests will still be there, not enjoying themselves with your there or not.  So you might as well be there to support your friend.

    Also, if she was my good friend I qwould 100% bring up the food issue. 

    Post # 4
    3119 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @mrsbree:  You need to decide how close of friends you are.  I’m assuming it’s in town since you haven’t mentioned travel.  You shouldn’t attend weddings just because of the food…you go to celebrate their marriage.  I think you now are just a little more prepared!  You won’t have the responsibilities so you and DH would be able to leave early if necessary.

    Post # 5
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Ugh. Just reading the description made me squrim with embarassment. I would be so humiliated if I invited guests to something and there wasn’t enough food. I understand what it means to be on a budget – Fiance and I aren’t loaded – but food is definitely not something I would scrimp on to save money.

    I would not go. It’s not just about me – I could eat beforehand to save myself – but I just would not want to spend several hours watching other people be made so uncomfortable. Sorry, but I just can’t imagine having a friend that would treat her guests so badly.

    Post # 6
    4945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I would go, but I don’t think you need to bring your DH. You’re not a Bridesmaid or Best Man, so you can eat beforehand and leave if you get too hungry. 

    Post # 7
    1731 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If it’s in town, go to the event and either eat beforehand or directly afterwards. Don’t make your husband go, though!


    Post # 8
    8679 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @mepayne:  I agree with this. If someone is truly your “friend,” then you should go. I wouldnt force my husband to go. I think they just dont plan well nor do they budget their money well but I see that often. I would go if it was my friend Unless I had to travel hours for it or pay for airfare or something.

    Post # 9
    7635 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You should both attend, for sure. A and B are not the same person!  If I was B, I would hate to be pre-judged by my sister’s wedding. Plus you’re not a bridesmaid, so you have no responsibility and can always leave early.

    Post # 10
    2252 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would go alone and eat beforehand. Just be there for your friend and try to enjoy the wedding.

    Post # 11
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Go to the ceremony (that’s the important part after all!) and make an appearance at the reception (be sure to bring a card/present so that they know that you were there) but leave early and head home to your husband. 

    Post # 12
    6253 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    If you don’t know for tsure that the little sister’s wedding will be just as bad, I recommend not punishing the little sister for the big sister’s bad decisions.

    But if you do know, and it sounds like you have a pretty good idea so far, I’d make sure and have plans for that day. If you do go, I certainly wouldn’t purchase a lavish gift.

    Post # 13
    15514 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Crappy wedding or not, if you consider them good friends, I would absolutely go.  I probably wouldn’t make my husband go though.  I’d just go, mingle, do a few rounds, congratulate her, then leave.

    Post # 14
    14 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    yes go but eat before and bring a snack. dont make hubby go tho.

    Post # 15
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’d go, and if I was super worried about starving to death I’d put a granola bar in my purse.

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