(Closed) Should I back down?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Heck no you should not back down.  We had a kid-free wedding, (except our flower girl and ring bearer, and they left fairly early), and I don’t regret it at all.  In fact, attending friends’ weddings before and after my wedding has made me confident I made the right decision.  Especially with yours being more of a formal affair, it’s NOT a place for kids.  I think you are providing an awesome alternative for them and have gone above and beyond, their parents need to respect that and keep them in the kid’s room or not bring them at all.

Post # 5
8438 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

There is nothing wrong with having a kid free wedding.

Personally I know a lot of parents that would love the idea but also know a few that wouldn’t leave their kids with an unknown babysitter.

However the major problem I see with your kids room ideais that your FH’s side is already against it and I think they will just let there kids come into the reception regardless of whether or not there is kids room. And then once one kid escapes into the adult realm well I think it will be the old monkey see monkey do- lots of kids running around your adult reception.

Post # 6
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You should NOT back down! I think that is an awesome idea for the kids!


Post # 8
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Please… do not let other people tell you what’s going to happen at YOUR wedding.  I definitely wouldn’t back down.  I don’t see what their issue would be since the kids would technically still be there, just in a separate room & likely having more fun than they would be around a bunch of adults drinking alcohol.

Post # 9
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MattandKristin:  “WTF?!? Why cant people just want a nice adult evening?!?!”

EXACTLY!  I don’t understand why people can’t enjoy a night out without their kids.  I think you are being extremely nice by providing a room for the kids.  Stick to your guns and don’t even stress over it on your wedding day- appoint your coordinator to enforce the no kids atmosphere.

Post # 10
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that is a great idea and you shouldn’t give in to them…if they are going to be GUESTS at YOUR wedding, they should kindly do as you ask…it’s not like you’re leaving them stranded without a sitter or another option…you’ve put thought into it!

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