Post # 16
Thank you all for the great feedback. I really feel more comfortable having a conversation with her and laying everything out. I didn’t want to make her special day about me, but I also don’t want to make things more difficult. This is a hard conversation to have because I value our friendship and don’t want this to change things. I will keep all of your comments in mind when I talk to her. Wish me luck!
Post # 17
Good luck! Glad you are feeling more comfortable.about talking to her. Let us know how you get on.
Post # 18
So sorry about your dear dad.
I’d drop out in your place . Also, I don’t think I’d make that conversation too long and detailed and most of all, too much focussed on what she wants. Rather , I’d simply tell her that try as you might, you just can’t manage it on the new date and that you hope she understands etc etc .
It is not , after all, an actual real wedding, it’s just a kind of costume party, although admittedly an important one to her.
Post # 19
I wouldn’t drop out, but I wouldn’t take on any more responsibilities related. Show up in the dress and have a great time.
I am in graduate school currently and the first day in all my classes has never been that important anyways, and if you have a good excuse such as a wedding I would say as long as you discuss with your professor it would be fine.
Post # 20
Wait im lost why did you say sister instead of bff. I think most people get that a best friend often times is important as family and considered family in most cases.
Post # 21
I would mention the death in the family plus school and work but leave out graduations bc to many people these are dramatically less important than a wedding. I don’t think that’s always the case but I’m just saying a lot of people do. Say you want to be the maid of honor but for these extenuating circumstances, you feel that one of the bridesmaids would do a lot better job with the events plus you are stretching it even attanding the wedding.