Post # 1
Ok. My photographer is a friend of FI’s from high school. We dont get along. I dont like her, she doesnt like me, nothing bad, just a mutual dislike. However, she agreed to do our wedding for $200. She takes amazing photos. And she needs the exposure. She has never shot a wedding. It will be her first. However I have been out of work for about a month now, and our budget of course has been a little tight. So her and Fiance were talking and she was asking about the wedding, and she starts in on well if my bf and i wanted to get married we would make it happen no matter what. And maybe you secretly dont want to marry her and thats why you guys keep putting it off. Just stuff like that, which PISSED me off, rightfully i think. But i can deal with her because her pics are fantastic. And our budget is tight, probably a $2500 to $3000 wedding. Well today Fiance text her to tell her we wanted to pay her half of the money now and half 30 days before the wedding. So i take $100 out of the bank. Well she starts talking about $500. Um no we agreed on $200. I know that most people would kill for a great photographer for $500, which btw, for where i live, is actually a lot. Its not that that bothers me. Its the agreed upon $200. Well he tells her and she agrees that she will do it for $200, however takes off the day after photoshoot and engagement pics she said we could have. I just dont know if i can trust someone who changes like that and goes back on their word. Plus i dont think thats how friends treat friends. If i were good friends with someone and could help them out in any way, i would do it, and do it for free. We even had another photographer friend offer to do them for free, and hes great, but we had already agreed to go with this one. So should i be worried? Should i talk to the other friend and see if he will do them still and offer him the $200 we were going to pay her?
Post # 3
I don’t care what a great deal it sounds like…if I don’t like her and she doesn’t like me, I wouldn’t want her anywhere near my wedding day. It’s not worth it to me to have any potential discomfort, awkwardness, etc.
Post # 4
Get rid of her! Why would u want someone who doens’t like u take your pictures? She has no incentive to make u look good
Post # 5
Ya. Thats how im starting to feel. At first i thought, well were both adults, we can handle being around eachother, maybe even learn to like eachother if we spent more time together. But talking to my Fiance about how he might not want to marry me. Thats crossing a line.
Post # 6
Yeah.get rid of her..How do you know she won’t mess with your photos the day off (not take certain shots). I wouldn’t chance it.
Post # 7
Yeah, no! I wouldn’t want someone who doesn’t like me taking pics. What if she takes super unflattering ones of you? Plus, if it’s her first wedding and it’s for exposure, especially if she’s a friend, it should be free IMO.
Post # 8
No way… if I didnt like someone and knew they felt the same I would not want them around on my wedding day, especially trying to capture my happy moments. Just the thought of it would annoy me and it’d probably show in pictures. Especially after the crap she said to your Fiance and her dishonesty.
Post # 9
Get rid of her! I wouldn’t dare trust anyone like that. Just tell her thank you but no thank you and see if friend2 will still do it!
Post # 10
Ditch her. Why would you want someone there on your wedding day who is trying to plant seeds in your FH’s mind? That’s mind game bs. “You don’t really want to marry her because you aren’t running off to the courthouse to do it right now.” That’s basically what she said. Screw her and see if your other friend still wants to do it.
Post # 11
In the future, whoever you go with, make sure you sign a contract from the get go agreeing on a price and the services. Don’t give anybody any money without a contract and then there’s no issue with them charging more later.
Post # 12
First and foremost, you are paying her to do a job as photographer. You had an agreement between you (written and signed is the way to go, but nevertheless, you had an agreement) for a certain fee and certain services. If she is suddenly asking for more, and suddenly deleting shoots out of spite, she is not honoring your prior agreement and therefore, she is not being professional. At this rate, she’s likely to oops, not have batteries in the camera, or oops, not take photos of the ceremony. Who needs to worry about that? Ditch her.
Post # 13
Why would you want someone you can’t stand to take your photos? The photographer is with you more than your husband almost is on your wedding day. Right next to you. Talking to you. Hanging out with you. It’s going to really take away from your wedding if you are spending a chunk of the day hating being around her.
Hire someone else!
Post # 14
Wow, what a nasty, horrible woman. Normally Id say just go with whoevers pics you like slighty more, but this is WAY over the top. Also, you need to look at it as you are doing her the favor allowing her to shoot your wedding, being that’s it’s her first wedding. You can’t put a value on that opportunity and what those portfolio pictures will do for her business going forward. She is trying to turn it around on you and make it out to be like she’s doing you this huge favor, when you’re really doing her the favor. Nobody wants to hire a photographer with no wedding portfolio for their wedding. I wouldn’t necassarily just go with the other friend though, try Craigslist.
Post # 15
Even is she is an “amazing” photographer, you’re not going to look happy in your pictures if you’re around someone who you very obviously dislike and she dislikes you right back.
Why would you even trust that she would take decent pictures of you? No bride should hire a vendor that she has such a negative personal relationship with. Sorry, but that’s a no brainer.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t want her to take my pics if there is a mutual dislike, as other posters have also said. But if you do decide to stick with her, I would definitely write up a contract!!