- 4 years ago
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and everything seemed to be going pretty well. I had some concerns about him being sort of cheap but addressed them with him and he has gotten a lot better.
However recently my boyfriend told me an ex messaged him randomly a couple months ago but nothing happened. This ex had ghosted on him in the past is how they broke up! He stated she randomly texted him and asked how he was doing. When he reiterated the story to me, he made it sound like he politely replied but then ignored her. He said to me she can’t just disappear so long ago and then resurface so much later and expect him to drop things. And he was like she was a jerk and had lots of issues. And he told me she’s been dating some guy or something for awhile.
I know I shouldnt of done this but my boyfriend recently let me borrow his phone and I looked at this old message. She had in fact reached out to him and just said something reminded her of him and asked how he was doing. However my boyfriend said he was doing well but then continued the conversation with her like how was she doing and why did it remind her of him. He also replied to her “hey you, it’s been a long time…”. Turns out she stopped the message with him. It makes me wonder if she continued the message with him what would he have done???
He has told me this ex was insecure and over-dramatic and how I’m so much more together and stable than anyone in the past he’s dated. But if she was so awful why did he respond to her honestly?? I ignore exes who ghosted me or broke up with me when they resurface with messages or calls. I think his ex has a boyfriend now, but it sort of makes me concerned if she showed interest again what would his response be???
Also my boyfriend took like 8 months to say he loved me. He said it took so long cause he was nervous. Should I be concerned or am I just being worried for no reason??