- 5 years ago
First I will say that the photography for my wedding is very important to me. I told Fiance from the beginning that a year from now, all we will have left from our wedding is our rings and our pictures, so those are the things I am willing to spend a little more money on. However, we are having a “budget” wedding and we are trying to save wherever we can.
Fiance has a friend who does photography for a living, but he does mostly still portraits. From the beginning, Fiance has said that Friend will do our photography for free. Before Fiance had talked to Friend about this, I was shopping around and found a professional wedding photographer who agreed to do everything for $1000 (a steal, in my opinion!). Fiance said he needed to talk to Friend before I do anything.
So Fiance talked to Friend and come to find out, Friend has actually been working with a wedding photographer for the past few months! Great! Friend said he would love to do our wedding photography, and we agreed to pay all his expenses while he is in town. Friend also expressed a concern that the wedding not be too “extravagant” (whatever that means). I heard Fiance tell Friend “we don’t want a lot of pictures, just a handful–we want you to be a guest FIRST”. *What?* When Fiance got off the phone, I told him that is not really what I want, that we are only getting married once and I want to have a lot of pictures! So Fiance asked me to put together a list of photos I want so he can send to Friend, to make sure Friend is still ok with what we are asking of him. I sent this:
10-10:30 Bride and Groom getting ready
10:30-11 – Ceremony
Groom awaiting Bride
Flowergirl and Ringbearer walking down aisle
Groom as Bride enters
Bride and father walking down aisle
Bride and Groom leaving
pictures of our decorations
11-11:30 – Family / Bride and Groom pictures
Bride with father
Bride with Bride’s family
Bride and Groom with Bride’s family
Groom with father
Groom with mother
Bride and Groom with Groom’s family
Bride and Groom with both families
Bride and Groom pictures
11:30-2 – Reception
picture of each table
bride and groom sitting
people playing lawn games
pictures of our decorations
While researching, I found lists titled things like “101 Wedding Photos You Can’t Live Without!” so I thought my list was minimal! Fiance told Friend that we don’t even have a bridal party. However–this is the response we got back from Friend:
“I am fine with being your wedding photographer, yes it’s a bigger list than you first mentioned but that’s ok. I am sure it’ll work out just fine… Also, how many people will be attending? And as to the matter of table photos at the reception… Will I have or be able to score some assistance… I find the table shots are some of the more problematic to get without some assistance. That’s all I can think of now.”
AM I FREAKING OUT OVER NOTHING? I really want our pictures to be amazing, but it seems that Friend wants this to be a laid-back experience at best, and he even wants us to “score him some assistance”. If I had no other options, I might be more accepting, but I haven’t yet gotten back to my professional photographer who agreed to do everything for $1000. I think Fiance sees it as a good place to save some money, and pictures have never been particularly important to him.
Should I trust that Friend will do a good enough job or try to convince Fiance that we need to hire a professional?