(Closed) Should I be concerned about this photographer??

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Have you seen any examples of this friend’s work? How is the composition? How is the editing?

And by examples of work, I don’t mean posed portraits- I mean you need to see an actual WEDDING that this friend has shot. 

I would never ever get someone to do my wedding without seeing a lot of examples of their personal work first. (Regardless of price.)

I’d be really nervous if I were you. It kind of sounds like this friend isn’t super interested in shooting the wedding and is acting like it’s a huge favor. (Don’t get me wrong- it is. But you don’t want your photographer to feel like your wedding is an imposition!)

What kind of ‘assistance’ does he need for shooting the table photos? A lot of times, a professional photographer will bring a second shooter with them to weddings- but that person is also a working professional! If he’s asking for assistance in physically taking the photos, I wouldn’t just want some random person taking the pictures.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Pumpkin_Bee:  Well, I suppose you are faced with the time aged choice of love or money on this one….a friend of your FI’s has agreed to do the photos for free, which is generous of him but I think the rub on that arrangement is that you are really in no position to demand much of him, since you aren’t paying a penny outside of his expenses to get there…

This is where paying a professional comes in handy, because you are certainly entitled to ask anything within reason, as there is a business arrangement in place stating who does what and for how much…

More pressing though, I would say is your emphasis on the photos and your FI’s total lack of interest in them…I’m not a picture person myself and I tend to get aggrivated if someone is taking picture after picture of me while I’m trying to be in the moment….so talking about it with your Fiance would be first on my list…because you certainly should have the photos you want, but you would also like to avoid taking away from your FI’s experience of the day since he may be an In the Moment kind of person too.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Get a different photographer. This never ends well, from the threads I’ve seen that start this way on the bee. Also, stop letting your Fiance do the talking, if he is downplaying what is important to you!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

@Pumpkin_Bee:  I would be a little freaked out…. This doesn’t even sound like something he wants to do!  I would talk to Fiance about booking the pro-photographer, honestly.  I’d be too scared to take the chance!

Post # 8
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

What she said: @crayfish !!!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You need to hire someone, without a doubt.  It’s not worth saving 1K.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Book the pro photographer and tell the friend you decided you’d rather have him to be able to fully enjoy the wedding as a guest, and not have to work.

Post # 11
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Pumpkin_Bee:  Don’t do it.  Hire a professional.  Please.

Budget photography and “friendor” photography is only ok for brides that really don’t care that much about the photos.  This is not you.  You really care about the outcome of these pictures, and you are so correct… the only way you will be able to have your precious, irreplaceable wedding memories is through the photos that get taken.  Do you want:

– completely missed moments?  While the photog who is not used to working a fast pace or under less than ideal lighting conditions tries to figure out what the heck to do?

– bad, blurry photos that look like a guest took them?  Because the photog probably doesn’t own the proper equipment and even if he gets some, won’t know what to do with it?

You KNOW this is a bad idea.  Please, tell your Fiance this is not ok with you.  For your sake and for his.  Your friendship with this guy will be absolutely ruined if he devastates you by delivering terrible photos. 

And don’t think that isn’t exactly what will happen.  Please don’t take advice from people that have never been wedding photographers.  I learned by trial and error (even after second shooting… being the main photog is so much different)…. it took me a while, many weddings to get everything coordinated and learn what to do.  I promise you, you do not want someone who doesn’t know what they are doing.  I can’t even BEGIN to tell you HOW MUCH skill and talent and equipment and experience is required to do wedding photography right.  Please don’t listen to someone that doesn’t know what they are talking about, and hire someone that doesn’t know what they are doing.

Please feel welcome to PM me if you need help handling this, or need a more detailed list of why this is a terrible idea (or someone to help you find a pro to hire!)  I would be happy to help.  Also…. please go back and read some of the threads on this board full of people who hired a friendor and were devastated.

And finally, don’t believe it when someone suggests that you should do engagement photos with this guy, and if you like those, you’ll be good for your wedding.  That is honestly as ridiculous as someone saying that if you can make microwave mac and cheese well, you’re totally ready to make a four course meal from scratch!  No. Way.  Take it from someone who knows.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Pumpkin_Bee:  That would be a deal-breaker for me. I imagine the editing process for editing a painting and editing a person are INCREDIBLY different.

Post # 13
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

DO NOT DO IT!!!!!!!!  This is one day that you cannot do again.  It just isn’t worth the risk no matter the savings!!!!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Pumpkin_Bee:  There is NO doubt in my mind you that you should get the professional wedding photographer. If this friend ends up taking the pics and he stuffs them up you will end up resenting both him and your Fiance. You also won’t be able to complain about the pictures because he’s doing it for free. 

Don’t use the friend as a photographer. You will regret it. He doesn’t know how to photograph weddings. Just tell him you and your Fiance want him to relax and enjoy himself at your wedding rather than ‘working’ and, because of that, you have decided to hire someone.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Pumpkin_Bee:  Friend posted on Facebook, “There are few things I hate more than sitting at a computer editing photos. Get me outta here!”

Oh…my….god….. He will NEVER be a wedding photographer.  Where you have to sort through 2k+ photos and then edit and deliver 600+.  Hours and hours.  Yeah, no.  Fire hiim.  Make it up to your Fiance some other way.  Let him decide on something else that matters to you less.

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